In the course of life our companions may change

Not every companion is necessarily with us for life! Whether it's a business relationship, a relationship with a lover or a relationship with a friend!

Relationships are like a dance game or the flow of water. If they are flowing, following them strengthens the bonds we have and changes the taste we get from life. But if it is not flowing and we try to make it flow, we only create misery.

In long friendships, this companionship is not a straight line. Just as life is not black and white, it changes and transforms. Sometimes short or long breaks re-strengthen the bonds of friendship. Sometimes long breaks destroy the whole friendship.

Each situation is unique. Therefore, it is impossible to make a definitive judgment that two times two is four. In every case, the guide is what is felt in the heart.

True love lies in seeing and accepting the other person with understanding, rather than struggling to change their karma.

To make an oak tree into a sycamore tree,

To turn a linden tree into a spruce tree,

To make a cat into a dog,

We don't try to turn apples into pears, do we?

If we try to do it, it is a futile effort.

We easily realize this.

But this is where we have the most difficulty in friendships or any kind of relationship today.

We call it love to mold things the way we want them to be! But real love involves only pure understanding. And because we don't have that, when friendships take short or long breaks, we think that our friendship is over. We feel sad, we feel hurt. Maybe we even reproach. But in reality there is something else going on and it has nothing to do with us (usually). But the human mind and ego love to think that everything is about them. It pities itself, it mourns untruthfully.

But in reality it is something else. Looking back, I see this so clearly in my own life that I cannot explain it. Not every guest has to stay and not every guest has to go. Do I welcome their stay and their departure with an open heart?

I have had times of separation with very close friends. Some of them I have really drifted apart from, some of them I have grown close to again. My drifting apart doesn't mean that my love for them is over, it just means that we don't have a place in each other's journey. Is it in my power to change other people's journeys?

We cannot force the people we want to stay in our lives. Or mold them into what we believe is healthier. Our connection today doesn't have to last forever, just because it doesn't doesn't mean it's over.

We don't have to tug here and there to make it last!

Sometimes paths diverge and then rejoin or not!

Are we able to understand each other's path, each other's karma?

That's the basis of everything!

Then nothing ends, it just keeps transforming, like us, like life. And then we become the dance itself, not the one trying to dance.