9 tips to know if your partner cares about you
If you really love, you care about the other person, because to love is to care and to do your best for the person you love. These tips will help you to know if your partner really cares about you.
1. Active and sincere listening
Active listening makes us feel present and validated. With it, we know that the person in front of us is receptive not only to the message we are sending, but also to the emotions we are transmitting. Authentic listening implies interest, empathy and, of course, concern.
2. Real interest in what I think, think and feel
How do you know if your partner feels a real interest in you? There are many ways to know. First of all, he cares about what you say, remembers it, acts accordingly and also shows you in small everyday details that everything you explain to him values it and keeps it in mind.
Likewise, he takes your opinions into account and responds based on them. Last but not least, he is in tune with your feelings, is interested in them and looks out for your well-being in every circumstance.
3. Try to understand my perception of things.
To find out if your partner cares about you, you must determine whether he/she shows genuine empathy. Is he/she capable of putting him/herself in my shoes to understand why I feel the way I feel? Is he/she capable of appreciating my reality and my perception of things?
So, although it is true that there is neither the perfect person nor the ideal love, what should be given in all cases is that genuine understanding of who is able to take us into account at every moment and circumstance.
4. He/she is attentive to my needs and responds to them.
It is not enough for your partner to know that you have had a bad day. Knowing how to respond implies knowing how to act and for that there must be a willingness to make the other feel good. Within the capabilities of each of us, it is always possible to bring well-being to our partner.
5. Take my concerns seriously
To know if your partner cares about you, you should pay attention to his or her words and behavior. In case that before every demand, need or comment he/she tells me "that's nonsense, you worry about nothing", it is evident that the relationship is not on the right track.
Likewise, if instead of taking seriously what worries me or hurts me, he chooses to focus on himself, it is evident that there is a problem.
6. When he decides something he takes me into account
In a couple's relationship it is legitimate that each one can make his or her own decisions. However, it is necessary that every step taken is consensual, that the other person's opinion and point of view is taken into account.
If I propose, for example, to get a promotion at work and that involves being away from home several days a week, it is appropriate that I worry about what my partner thinks about it.
7. Consider my feelings
Respect for the emotional reality of the other is a pillar that cannot be beaten, notched or lacerated in any way. Thus, to know if your partner cares about you, it is important that he/she values how he/she makes me feel.
Emotional respect for the other provides security, reinforces self-esteem and strengthens affection.
8. He is interested in simple and transcendent things related to you.
Love is attention and interest. However, this interest is not only focused on whether my partner has had a good day or a bad day. It also looks at the everyday, if he has slept well, if he is liking the series we have started or if there is a tinge of concern on his face that I do not know the origin of.
9. You are his priority
To love is to prioritize what is loved above most things. It is important that we perceive this preference on a daily basis. It is far from deriving in that blind and even dangerous obsession in which, to neglect oneself to focus exclusively on the loved one.
It consists in perceiving that the other takes us into account, that he/she puts us ahead of many things, that he/she chooses us every day and in a good part of the circumstances. This undoubtedly builds a solid bond through which trust and security run, allowing us to move forward in happiness and balance.
Let us take these dimensions into account and let us not limit ourselves only to check the other person to know if he/she cares about us. Let us also make them ours and put them into practice.