Missing person

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4 years ago

The amount of missing people is extremely high.

Some countries are famous for their missing adults, tourists, and/or children. There are all kinds of reasons why someone leaves and the question is how those left behind deal with it, what do they feel if the message is given to them their beloved one is missing?

In many countries, you can not report someone missing within the first 24 hours.

The police aren't fond of making these reports. Once they start they have a lot of questions to ask. Questions about you, your family, if there were fights, habits, and behavior of the missing person, etc. In many cases, they tell you not to worry because "the moody teenager" or "angry partner" will show up soon or the young adult most likely "hangs out with friends."

Most missing people are found within 48 hours.

Hoping for...

Hope is what humans need to go on. To get out of bed, get dressed. In most cases "going on" means searching for the lost one. Parents, siblings, friends travel to search, to find answers. Some do for the rest of their lives.

Hope has a negative side as well.

You can not keep hoping, waiting, searching. It makes one forget about the present life, forget others, those who matter too. Focusing on the loss only means there is no room for the present, others, ourselves.

Looking for answers?

Know it's natural to do so. The brain deals easier with facts as insecurities which means answers are needed and if not given we automatically search for it or make them up.

It's hard, if not impossible, to feel what someone waiting for a missing person to return feels, has to endure. As an outsider, it can be annoying to hear 20 years in a row the same story. Know, that next to hope and giving up on hope there's time needed to grieve.

Grieving.

A grieving process takes time. How can one grieve if there's no body found if there are so many unanswered questions? How to start a new life if you keep asking yourself if you missed some sign and feel responsible?

Talking helps especially if you speak with people who share the same experiences, feelings, doubts. It does if you are aware you are not the only one and there is nothing you could have done to avoid it.

The next step is to focus on the present.

The sun still shines on your face, there are people who like to have you around or might like to meet you. Do not scare them away because you have only one subject to talk about, if you always start about you, your loss.

Try to turn it into something positive. With this experience writing and painting are options for starting a new hobby.

A memorial can give the lost one a place and is a good opportunity to remember without making the loss ruling and ruining lives.

The soul doesn't care about time which means it will take as long as it needs to grieve.

This doesn't mean there are no ways to get out of the circle of unanswered questions and keep suffering. The fact is some questions will never be answered and it's important for one's own health to pick up life and cherish what we still have.

#kittywu

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How it was suppose to spread awareness and how miss could be an article? I had this question until I saw this .. thanks for this information I'll try to write something from my own

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4 years ago

I am looking forward to read yours. 👍

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4 years ago

Grieving about a missing person is always there no matter how long it takes , the uncertainty of their fate causes much pain

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4 years ago

If most missing people are found within 48hrs, that's very good. It can never happen in Nigeria, my country. I am not tarnishing the image of the country but telling you the reality. Thanks.

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4 years ago

I really could not imagine if one of my closest individual will be reported missing. It might drive me crazy because I'm a type that really treasure people who are dear to me. I'll be insane thinking what happened? Did they ran away or did something horrible caused them to go? Are they alive? are they hurt. No one knows and it will be very frustrating before you knew it

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