One wants to write about some quotes on lessons learnt. These quotes serves to remind anyone, including myself, on what to do and what not to do. Some of these quotes are taken from somewhere else. Check references for more details.

• Time does not heal, truth heals.

• Time calms one's mind to confront an issue.

• If you don't want it, refrain from applying it to others. （己所不欲勿施于人）

• Even if you want it, refrain from applying it to others. （己所欲亦勿施于人）

• Being trustworthy is not about having the right thoughts and doing the right things. It's about having the wrong thoughts and doing the right things.

• It's better to trust and get hurt than to not trust at all.

• Formality introduces distance between two people. Beware of what you wear!

References

• The 6 Secrets of a Lasting Relationship by Mark Goulston.

• Chinese Proverbs.

And since this article seems short, let's have something extra for you to read. One shall write it in two languages, English and Chinese. Note these are ordered randomly depending on what comes to my mind. Feel free to reorder them to show which are more important and which aren't. Scroll down for your preferred language. Thanks!

I am willing to

I am willing to trust someone, even if trusting someone might lead to hurt, betrayal, and dependent.

I am willing to share, to someone trusting, even if sharing they might use the information one shared against myself.

I am willing to accompany, even if accompanying someone one might be influenced by someone's thought, even if accompanying someone one need to compromise what freedom one holds.

I am willing to teach, via one own's behavior, speaking, and thoughts, one's teachings and beliefs, even if others think that one is stupid and it's anti-social, even if others are not willing to learn what one teaches, even if others don't agree with oneself on one's teaching. It doesn't matter.

I am willing to be available, to my closest of the closest friends, and to my future friends whom wish to strengthen and create a better and stronger friendship with oneself, that I'm always there for them, and hopefully, they're also there for me, even if it's not all the time.

I am willing to face the truth, with immense courage and concurrently, fear, the problems that we faced in our relationship; for if we know we can solve problems together, to gain empathy of each other, more than just understanding each other, to put ourselves in each others' shoes, we can solve any kinds of problems. And we know, if we encounter ever stronger waves in our way to better relationship, we can also solve them.

I am willing to bare my necks, laying bare our bottom lines, our expectations for each other. Even if not, I am willing to forgive, the closer friendships, even if they surpass my bottom lines. I am willing to let them know, that their existence in my life comes more important than myself, that even if they surpass my bottom line, they are allowed a second chance after they let known what had happened, and promise not to repeat again.

I am willing to apologize, that if one makes a mistakes; shall one put down one's face and pride, against great pressure, with great courage, to apologize for the mistakes one've made. Self-pride and face is not as important as the hurt they feel, and our friendship.

I am willing to forgive, those that shows in my eyes, that acts with integrity, those that apologize, for what mistakes they'd made, and give them a chance to explain themselves that they're not manipulator nor psychopaths, not narcissistic nor lacking in emotions. For those willing to learn their mistakes, carves it deep into their behavior that they'd trigger if they're doing it again, and make the effort to change. Shall one forgive their mistakes: because forgiving makes our lives much more happier than without. That revenge brings harm. That, it's better to gain some extra compensation from their side than to bring revenge, and that it makes us both happy, be in a better place, after that. Forgive, but not forget.

I am willing to believe, that there are people in this world whom care about me, that are willing to believe in me, and that we could share our problems, our thoughts, our emotions, to bare each other neck to each other; that manipulators and psychopaths are not the majority. I am willing to believe, that however people refrain from speaking emotions, with whatever reasons and seeing it as a weakness, that people still urge to have someone by their side to share each other, to be with each other.

And I wish, my dear readers, if you are to be my friend, you're willing to trust, to share, to accompany, to teach, to be available, to face the truth, to bare your necks, to let me know, to apologize, and to forgive; to give me a chance, if I did something wrong, to compensate you in any reasonable way, for the hurt that one inflicted on you in the past. Shall we lead a better friendship towards a closer friendship in the future.

(These might not cover everything, but at least they reflect quite a lot of things).

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我愿

我愿去信任，即便信任会带来伤害，背叛，与依赖。

我愿共享，即便所共享的信息会被利用来对付我。

我愿陪伴，即使会被影响，即使需要放弃一些自由。

我愿通过自身的行为举止教导自身的信念，即便别人觉得愚蠢与不合群，即便别人不愿学习，即便别人不赞同。

我愿空出时间给我最最亲近的朋友，以及未来希望与我拉近关系，建造深刻友谊的朋友。我会一直空出时间等着你们来填空。

我愿，以空前的勇气与承受恐惧的反噬，面对友谊中诞生的现实问题。以极致的同情心，面对现实中一定会诞生的问题，并平心静气，携手同心的一起解决问题。愿它带来更坚强，更可承受风雨的友情。

我愿把脖子伸出来，敞开的对对方说我的底线和对对方的期望。如若不然，我愿原谅好友所犯下的无心过失和被挑战的底线。我愿之后让好友们知晓他（她）们所挑战的底线，以及在他（她）们的承诺中，给予对方第二次机会。

我愿放下脸面与骄傲，在巨大的压力与拾取巨大的勇气下，对我所做过的过错道歉。因为脸面与骄傲在友情和对方所承受的痛苦面前不值一提。

我愿原谅对方，给予对方改过自新的机会，解释他（她）们不是操控者和精神病患者，不是自恋者或丢失性感者。原谅将升华我们的生命和友情。冤冤相报何时了。原谅，但不遗忘。

我愿相信，世界上有人对我关怀，对我信任，愿意共享事情，理念，情感，与放下隔阂。操控者和精神病患者终究是少数。我愿相信，即便人们试图原理情感，不管是什么原因或视其为弱点，依旧渴望一个人的陪伴与共享。

我希望，读者们，若尔等将来成为我的好友，你们愿意对我信任，对我共享，陪伴我，教导我，空出你们的时间，和我面对现实，伸出你们的脖子，让我知情，道歉，以及原谅我的过错。请给我一次机会，若我做错了什么，如何让我对你的伤害进行合适的补偿。愿我们一直加强，加深我们的友谊。

（这虽不涵盖全部，至少涵盖多数）