Huh? What Can We Do?

We make mistakes. Especially during learning process, we make lots of them. Even a usual day, boring as it is, we may make mistake(s). Perhaps after we make a mistake, our boss are angry at us, or maybe we hurt a friend's feeling, or perhaps, in the extreme, we end up in jail. What can we do?

Well, keep moving forward. We try to get our apology, sometimes promising not to do it again. We try to get ourselves out of jail. And we try to be more careful next time. Yet, how life feels when you act more careful?

The thing is, "careful" isn't relaxing, it isn't in the middle of a momentum which can keeps going. In another sense, unless you make something a habit, you continually exerts efforts to keep things going. That isn't easy, and most probably, it couldn't last long.

You could make "being careful" a habit, carving "better safe than sorry" into your soul for every action you're to take in the future; yet, if you're a person that likes adventure, perhaps you'd lose your taste on new stuffs. Being careful means laying back to the grounds that we already know so well and extensively avoiding new lands that trample into the unknown. It means no new stuffs being learnt, only preserving old stuffs; at least in the extreme. More averagely, you'd side more with defensive than adventurous unless the situation couldn't be defensive (e.g. when you're put in a place where there's totally no prior experience could help).

Even learning process, we couldn't remember every single fact. We rely on our underlying conscious to learn things that we couldn't remember correctly, it telling us the path to take, and we hope we got it correct. Thing is, rarely can we pick up more than 3 things at once without special training. Perhaps with a memory palace you could, if it triggers. Otherwise, you'd most probably remember only the last 3 lessons you've learnt in the recent past. If things get more distant, you slowly forgot the negative feelings that led you learning those lessons in the first place, speeding up the process of forgetting the lessons, until you make the mistake again. What says if a learning process have lots of things to remember: again, without special training, you won't remember everything.

All in all, we're just a regular human. We make mistakes, we try to learn from them, and we wish we won't do them again (at least in the short future). We aren't perfect. So the next time you make a mistake, keep moving forward.

And most importantly, knowing now that we aren't perfect, we should expect that others aren't perfect too! Since we can make mistakes, and we make lots of them, we expect others can also make mistakes, and make lots of them. If someone make a mistake, take your time forgiving them, caring to know that he/she is just a regular person, like you are! Of course, if someone keeps making the same mistakes over and over again, it's another story. But if someone keeps making different mistakes, it's worth forgiving. You know, you can't learn a new lesson from a totally unrelated mistake, right? And you think you lay down rules before they start can get them to not make mistake? No way! It wouldn't work that way. Not even if you stick the rule in front of them while they work: that burdens them from keep looking at the rules for each and every step to take, which is annoying and tiring.

So guys and gals, keep moving forward, and help others move forward. Speak calmly to solve a problem, believe we can reach consensus. Acceptance is the key, synergy is the team key. Let us walk together!

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