Bullying: Random Thoughts To Share
How does healing works? One don't know. One could write it down, to reason with it via logic, even to plan for the worst of what one could do in each situation if things play out in those ways, but they never assure. Logic is logic: they failed to calm the emotional. This is not an article about how; but one questions you all, my fellow readers, how?
Various logic can goes. Compared to the past, one should appreciate for how less victims there are nowadays. At least, that's what one assumes. In reality, one don't know! But with the advent of internet, and how children weren't grown ups, we can say bully are everywhere, ranging from young to old. Percentage wise, they may be the minority; but absolute wise, the number looms large. And we can't look at the percentage in this case; for bullying concerns the individual. It's not like the economic market, that America GDP is a small percentage compared to global percentage. Rather, a person being bullied cannot be reduced to a number; what says percent!
And yes, physical is quite aggressive; but physical-wise, you can defend yourself, say, with martial arts. The worse comes mental-wise. You can block someone, you can sue someone to court; but let's speak seriously: the psychological damage done is done, nothing can reverse the damage. The only way one know how to heal the emotional is with time; but when it arise again (even just the symptoms), you're in fight-or-flight again. You say the payment given when you win a court decision? Nope, money can't soothe your feelings. Maybe you'll live with it, yes, esp. if you're poor enough to look at the money as not just another number added to your already long number that the former barely register, so you can use it to rear your families or perhaps protect yourself from being a future victim; but the future is the future, the now is the now. And we spoke of the internet. Cyber-bullying carves the mental images more easily than carving it physically, no?
And one just searched the numbers online. In fact, there were quite a lot of bullying (32% median as of 2019) happening in school. Outside school one didn't search, but one believe (though not researched) that the numbers probably weren't too much smaller. Perhaps you encounter it in daily life, but more probably in work; for work environment imitates school, no? By the way, the facts are only the reported numbers; what about the not-reported? Are they as many as those reported, or even more?
And what can one say? That many are lucky to not get bullied? Or that they know how to protect themselves? Or perhaps, they just haven't yet get bullied, that it might happen some time in the future, that you might get to get such once in a lifetime at least? One don't know. Maybe, maybe not. But we certainly are taking it for granted, those most of us, that as long as we're not the victim, it's none of our business. And probably one shall be guilty of bullying others? One don't know, nor can one remember. One might have bullied others when one was young, but because one can't understand the other person's feelings back then, blind, one might not have known. If so, one shall apologize, now that one got more in touch with one's emotions, for whatever one had done. So if one get bullied, is that the ghost that haunts back? To let one feel shame or role playing of the victim? One don't know.
By the way, distractions won't work. In fact, it makes things worse. So, no, no distraction. One should face it head to head, any kind of problem, and deal with it a.s.a.p. to let one's heart returning back to the calm situation. After all, calm is the ultimate feeling that lasts. (As for staying in one's comfort zone, that's another story.) Excitement, positive-wise or negative-wise, are temporary. Prolonged depression and that kind, therefore, is bad for your health.
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