¿Does Our Body Language Speak For Us?
@VirtualVariety - 15/12/21
The answer is yes, even if we don't believe it or see it that way, our way of walking, looking, acting in different situations can give an answer to the question: "Who we are or How we are". Because there is a big difference between what we say and the expression we use to say it.
For example, I can be in a family meeting, while I listen that one of my relatives tells that he was promoted in his company, my response to such an achievement can be: "I am very happy for you, what happiness", however, my face is serious, my arms are crossed, and my look is averted. This indicates that the joy I feel is from the mouth outwardly, however deep down I am upset, jealous, or feel envy, so we can not lie with that Body Language, it can not be modified or manipulated as the Verbal.
¿What is Body Language?
We can know that Body Language according to the website HabilidadSocial.com
It is a form of communication that uses gestures, postures, and movements of the body and face to convey information about the emotions and thoughts of the sender. It is usually performed at an unconscious level, so it is usually a very clear indicator of the emotional state of people. Together with vocal intonation, it is part of nonverbal communication.
Based on this definition we can agree that this type of language can lead us to be almost transparent in the world because we can not manipulate it, we can not think that we will deceive others with our gestures, when we are upset no matter how hard we try to hide it will be noticed, either in our tone of voice, in the words, we use to express ourselves or as we move away.
Nowadays 70% or more of our communication is done in a non-verbal way, through our corporal expression, taking this into account we can understand why in the educational and work environment every day we try to implement strategies to get to know people better, many times we think that the importance of the interviews is to talk and talk to captivate the interviewer or interviewers, however the nonverbal is also analyzed, how you sit, how you look, what gestures you make while you express yourself, they can even know if you are lying by the simple fact of rubbing your nose, hide your arms, among other things. Our body can reflect when something pleases or bothers us.
¿How to Control Our Body Language?
The truth is that it is not about "controlling", but about having the necessary tools to express a good message with our gestures, with our body actions. And all this comes down to our emotions because we have to understand that those who speak for us are the emotions we cannot control or those we have not been able to work on. If you have a self-esteem problem, your body expression will transmit insecurity, doubts, confusion, that is why before working to improve our Non-Verbal Language, we must work on that self-concept that we have, on that self-esteem that sometimes does not allow us to move forward.
"Tonality and body language determine whether the word Hello means a simple acknowledgment, a threat, a humiliation or a pleasant greeting." - John Grinder
This phrase undoubtedly complements this topic of which we speak, because those little things that for some may be useless, make the difference between building or destroying, words have the power of course, however our body expression more. For example, we can address different topics in read.cash or noise.cash and most of them are motivational, reflective, pleasant, however, what would happen if instead of writing about that topic, we start recording videos, and in those videos, our body expression transmits anything but joy, happiness or motivation, obviously you will feel confused, and more if my tone of voice is strong, similar to the narrator of a horror movie.
Then we have to be very careful how we are going to express ourselves both verbally and nonverbally because we become the message, our body, even the simple fact that our hands are static when telling something, already makes you feel doubt in what we are telling because it is as if we had learned a script. Our hands can tell more stories than a documentary narrator, we just have to know how to use them and how to use them, with this pandemic many of us had to change or improve our way of expressing ourselves because we have a mask covering half of our face and this may be an impediment for the message to be captured by that or those receivers, but for this, we have our hands to accompany our voice thus creating a pleasant effect, because it will make that person who listens to us stay entertained, captivated.
¿Why do we fail in a Job Interview?
Very simple, because what we say has no synchronization with what our body shows or reflects, remember that more importance is given to what we are seeing than what we are hearing because that can not be changed, that can not be altered. That happens in job interviews, we say so many things but our body is reflecting insecurity, fear, distrust the interviewer will think that all that we are mentioning is a lie and will generate doubts to hire us.
And it not only happens in the work environment but also in our day to day, with our partners, our families or friends, while our words are not synchronized with our body expression we will be transmitting wrong messages dear readers, we have to take care of our body expression, think about our self-esteem, how we see ourselves, if we do not know that or ignore it we will never have synchrony.
