Does anyone tell a story that his relative died? Beats. Someone I know - I cannot say my friend, because if we meet on the road, we will probably pass without greeting - an Instagram story tells everyone where the funeral of his brother will be lifted, and which cemetery will be buried. I am not provoking. To be honest, first I felt odd, then I thought what to do when I thought; What is spreading faster than social media stories these days? I have known his brother, who passed away in his twenties, since he was a child. I went to the child's profile and checked it, sent a follow-up request on time, but it was suspended. I now have a follow-up request forever waiting to be accepted.
Another friend of mine shared the news of her mother-in-law's death from her Whatsapp story a few days ago. I also know his wife, we greet you when we meet. I didn't write anything. In his post two days later, he thanked everyone who called him, sent messages and supported him. Likewise, his wife shared her gratitude to everyone who called and sent messages and supported her in this difficult time.
So, is it that hard to send a message and say "Thanks to you"? It's hard for me, yes, and that's what this article is about. I cannot message or call people who have lost their relatives. I think the last thing he'd want to see and show too much empathy at that moment would be my stereotypical message. I think that when I call, he will see my name on the screen and unintentionally pick up the phone and the sentences I will make will upset him more. I think people whose relatives have died wouldn't want to hear anyone's head health messages in those few days. This may be a "shame" for some people I have done, but this is exactly what I feel. I cannot call people not because it is difficult or because I am insensitive, but because I am too sensitive, in a sense embarrassed by their pain. Perhaps the emotions I had 10 years ago are surfacing. I didn't care about any messages, no calls, when I lost my father. Of course, I was not angry with those who called and asked, but I cannot say that it was an action that would alleviate my pain and make me a little happy.
In the midst of the flames, it feels like handing the burn cream to the person who wants to get rid of the fire, calling before the funeral and saying "Thanks for your head". What shall we do then? I think you should call the relative of the deceased at least a week later. Of course, I cannot do this because I may have to take everything I explained in this article from the very beginning and explain why I called after a week, as the person who called me later.
Despite all this, I see that those who remained after those who died are happy to be searched and receive condolences. Not everyone feels like me, and I know very well that most of them don't. By writing this article I may have slightly overcome my indecision about how I should treat people on this issue. I am not only telling you, but also myself, and I am curious about your opinions on this matter.