Know when to yes and no

what exactly are we scared of? why do we need to please everyone even if its wrong. cant we be ourselves without being judged? I know its easy to say yes and all I wish to tell you is that don't just say yes and then regret. its obvious some people don't know the right time to say yes and the right time to say no. maybe they are scared of the person they want to give reply to cos I don't understand why we cannot decide without fear.

The word yes is a very strong word and it is the right word to say when you are sure what you are doing is the right thing to do, without least any doubt. This word will not come out of your mouth if you are not sure. On the other hand it is never blame people for making mistakes of speaking up a yes when it is not the right time to say yes. we learn from mistakes. and we need young people to speak up a No when they know they shouldn't say yes. and some might not believe this but every time I speak up a No, I get a yes and I believe in that.

I have been thinking about this concept lately cos it is not good to say yes to everything and not good to say no to everything as well.

I think sometimes we have too much of a tendency to act like agents in life, saying yes and no to everything that comes out of our mouth. Sometimes we should just be able to engage in conversations and not feel the need to say yes or no. Maybe it's fear of what people might say or fear of how the person will react or perhaps it's just because we want to be everything for everyone. Those are all good reasons and valid ones but if we keep going like this, then we will never see the original.

I know there are some friends out there who would want you to be everything for them but sometimes you really cant be everything for everyone else. It's okay to tell people that you are too tired or that you need space or that you can't do it at the moment because you are taking care of yourself first. We cannot keep doing things for everyone else when we don't even do things for ourselves. If a lot of people say yes as a habit, then they might forget to say no at times when they should have said no and if a lot of people say no as a habit, they might forget to say yes at times when they should have said yes. We should have a balance between our yes and no, there is a time for yes and a time for NO.

Thanks for reading, I remain the anonymous writer @tifee