People my age, have different perspectives nowadays. We all have different opinions on such things. And since we are living in the modern era, there are such norms that whenever you are not being one, you are considered to be out of the ordinary, in a negative way.
"At least, I have a boyfriend/girlfriend."
I hear this every single time that I encounter teenagers who are getting into an argument. At first, I was okay with it since I'm proud that despite all one's flaws and insecurities, one is being accepted by another. But later on, it turns into more of a confusing phrase. First of all, having a relationship doesn't mean that much. Yes, you have another person to lean on besides your friends and family but it doesn't sit right with an argument. It doesn't add up to the fact that someone may be good looking than the opponent and none on life itself. Having a partner is truly one's decision to how he or she will have to go on with everyday life. The one that I remember is this one TV host saying to his guest how she looks good in every way or manner but laughs on the part that she is not in a relationship. I know it's supposed to be a comedy or funny way but if you look deep into it, it is still questioning. You will question the fact that how is that an insult, since being in a relationship is a responsibility and not a "flex". Yes, it is somehow something to be proud of but not to be carried on in any form of fight.
If someone is not ready to have a partner or a family or get married at the age the society wants them, then just respect him/her. There's nothing wrong with being single. A partner is not there to give the things you think you need when you don't need them. Have a partner when you see the affection and their attitude towards the negativity in life, because if you're only looking at how they look good or how they provide some mental and sexual needs, then don't have one. A partner is being seen to be the life partner, not something you just have to experience. Children, on the other hand, are there to bring love to one as well, not a retirement plan so someone is there to help you when you get old.
By the way, if you plan to stay single for life, be better at things since the world is filled with mysterious things.
"You're too fat. / You're too skinny."
People want to see the fit and style of being "normal" which is like being in the line of sexy. The people who are beyond or under it are being called out. There's a lot of factors to be considered into why someone is struggling to keep the diet the norm wants them to be. Some are experiencing stress eating from too much stress in life like personal or family or relationship problems. Some are experiencing financial crises since not everyone can afford to buy food or exercise the right way. But these statements are not easily explained because some people want to hear the story they only want to hear. If it doesn't sit right with them, it's ignored. There is this certain actress who became "fat" after tons of pressure in a certain film that made her drop out of it and have surgeries up until now. She is a versatile actress and is known by the public for her dedication to art and her awards and recognitions. But since the public knew her for being sexy and body inspiration, when she became unusual, people start coming at her. It might be hard for her since she's in an industry where people have eyes and ears most of the time but also, even if you're a fan or supporter or not, respect and love are what you can give to her. At some point, she may not want to be in that position but because of healthy manners, she was forced to do things to make her survive and not be in bed and get sick.
The more stressful part is this does not want to be heard by the older people. They think of stress or depression as something that is not true and just made up in your mind. These kinds of people are the ones that call the new generation, "soft and fragile", or in other terms, the ones that get hurt easily.
Experiences like this are much likely to make a person overthink about themselves. They think of how to impress people rather than do their own thing as long as they don't hurt other people. The fact that instead of having that motivation towards people suffering, we just ignore it since it doesn't bring any sunshine in our eyes.
What are your experiences with "Insults"?
