Girls or women who blame the mistress and do not get angry at their partner are one of the biggest injudiciousness in the world. How come you don't blame your partner and forgive him or her as if that person is not to blame for what happened?
As the saying goes, "Once a cheater, always a cheater."
My biological father had a lot of mistresses when he was still living with us. I have to admit, he is very good-looking. However, that is his biggest downfall as well. The fact that he always uses his physical structure to hunt girls is not always a good thing. Well, if he can attract a sugar mommy, then at some point, he may be good with it. But in the end, it's not always rainbows and ponies. I just know right now that he is stuck with his mistress who likes luxurious things that made him go to different banks and do loans and managed just get away with it (for now).
Now, I confronted his mistress once and once only because I wanted to know the truth. And the fact that she already knew before going into their relationship that he had a family was the most infuriating thing I experienced. Well, according to her, my biological father said that their already separated but the papers say otherwise.
I will understand and forgive if a mistress has no clue, whatsoever since she is considered a victim as well. Might as well, get out already in there. But turns out, she has a clue so my reaction was the opposite.
"It takes two to tango."
Remember that you're partner has all obligations on you. You can't blame the mistress if you don't blame your partner. Just like in court or when you're watching a hearing about annulment, two parties are always on the guilty stand since both of them are involved. You can't file a case against one if you don't file that same case for the other one as well.
This is why I hate women who only blame the mistress and say how men are too weak for temptation. No, they are not.
As a woman, I believe men are stronger. This is why they are considered to be the walls of a house since they can protect the people inside.
I also believe that women can survive on their own, with the ability and capability to protect themselves from intrusions. They are survivors of much discrimination and I think it's time to have that strength to be as powerful as they can be.
As much as I have hate towards mistresses, I have more hate for cheaters themselves. If you already know that you're in a relationship, you have to keep that promise to never let yourself get tempted by others. No matter how easy temptation is to get away from, you can never get into it. The problem is that these cheaters, regardless of gender, is that they always have excuses.
If your excuse is the physical structure, then you're not worthy of any form of love and respect. If you ever decided to get along with temptation, treat it like a gift. The outside is just the packaging. If you've experienced ordering something online and see how the seller manages to have decent packaging for the item, it's mesmerizing. But if you see that the item you ordered is not the item you expected, anger and disappointment will hunt you.
If your excuse is because of how the other treats you better than you're partner, you will have choices to make the right decision. The first one is to confront your partner on what you're looking for, but also, always think about the positivity of what's missing. Not because you want something, doesn't mean you need it. Always think first before you open that mouth. The other one is to end everything formally. At least both parties will have a formal decision. But remember, when you let go of a treasure to get the other one, you will never find the first one you've lost.
If you want to live your life to the fullest, always take responsibility.
Never be selfish. It stinks. And when people start to smell it, they will ignore you.
Never end things just because you are already crossing the bridge. The bridge might crack and you might get hurt.
That is super sad and hurtful.