What happens if you don't have both the confidence and the appearance that society has standards on? It's a bit intimidating to see how a person has both the good-looking figure and the ability to express themselves towards a situation or a crowd of people. Landing a job would be a step forward since the skills are what needed to be enhanced since you already can present.
The standards of society when it comes to physical appearance are never easy to build. There's a lot of boring stuff to do that nobody wants but if you want to achieve that good figure, you have to do those workouts and diet routines. I went into a gym workshop during college with my friends to be able to get that body figure I want. We went during the second year in college but since the pandemic happened, I never had the chance to properly do the routine we were tasked to do since there is no gym in the province that I am staying in right now. Although I can do home workouts, it's a bit difficult to do when you have a lot of stuff to finish besides school works. Whenever I watch videos on YouTube or Facebook or other social media platforms or even in Udemy classes, I always see a lot of effort when you want that body. For me, it's really hard to exercise even if I wanted to. Although I try to at least lessen the food that I eat, it may take a lot of time to see my body's changes.
Society, including me since I am part of that group, wants women to look slim and healthy. We do have people who will accept our appearance since I know few people who don't care about your appearance, whether you're fat or super thin or just normal. I actually admire those kinds of people since they have a good perspective in terms of life should be in terms of freedom and lifestyle. However, we should never go beyond fat or thin since it will really affect our health and will result in even worse outcomes.
Most of us believe that what's inside is what always matters but I have to admit that good-looking people are given advantages every single time. Most of the celebrities we know have beautiful faces and are given more attention even if those who are not that pretty are doing the same level of professionalism and artistic talents. Some celebrities don't even have to have a talent for everybody to talk about, some take advantage of the wrongdoings for people to comment about their bad behavior and some are really trying to stay relevant. I am not a celebrity myself nor know someone who works in the entertainment business but I know that bad publicity is still publicity. Just like that not-so-good tape that Kim Kardashian and Ray J starred in, I know that it was meant to be posted for people to talk about. And I think everything blew up for the Kardashian-Jenner clan after that video came out. Their physical appearance is what the viewers desire to be so it's hard for those who don't want that look to fit in.
What I really want to put forward in myself is to have confidence. And I know that in order to achieve that status is to get rid of the mindset that I have to please everybody, especially my family. It's hard for me to be in a situation where I know that someone will be disappointed with my presence. I have seen a lot of people who can actually talk with such powerful voices and aura which I envy since that's the type of person I want to be. Appearance does matter but I think that confidence is way better. When you have that voice to talk about something, everybody will listen. I once read an article where there's a teacher who explains something to a new set of students and the students actually listened and takes about the lessons. The plot twist is that the topics and ideas he presented were not true and it shows how confidence can easily manipulate other people. When you talk about something that other people don't know but you say it with a clear voice and presentable outfit, they will listen to you.
When you go to a mall or restaurants or seminars, the speakers or hosts must always be confident in their work. They have to have that voice and powerful tone in order for their customers to win their trust and respect. Whenever I go to seminars, I always listen to the speakers. Although I still think through what everything the speaker says, I can see how everybody is starting to get into the conversation just by listening to the words the speaker says, even if, I think, they don't even understand what he was saying. I once went into a business seminar where they are encouraging people to invest in their business to have that successful lifestyle everybody wants and as I looked in front, I see a bunch of mothers who were really into the discussion. They were even laughing at his jokes even if they are not that funny. Other people in the back just started laughing because of those women.
Well, both the appearance and the confidence must always be partnered. One must not go, otherwise, it will ruin a lot of things or you may not land on your desired path walk.