Don't let your problems with your mother negatively affect your life!

Many of us have probably heard the phrase mommy's boy in foreign TV series or movies. This phrase, which usually refers to the extreme attachment of adult men to their mothers, can become even more meaningful, especially in the early stages of romantic relationships, when women often hear warnings from other women in their inner circle, such as 'be careful, he has mommy issues'. Especially when we consider that culturally, male mothers often have half-sweet and half-bitter relationships with their children's female partners, the mommy issues in men, or 'mommy issues' as they are called in the literature, may become immediately clear.

However, these 'mommy issues' do not only apply to men. The relationship between women and their mothers can also pave the way for mommy issues. If you think that you have some emotional and psychological problems that affect your life, the reason may be the relationship you have with your mother.

Mommy or mommy issues can mean many different things, but they usually refer to the personal problems and attachment issues that arise from your relationship with your mother when you were growing up, and how this affects your life. Most people agree that the mother-child relationship is one of the most important dynamics in life. If you had an unhealthy relationship with your mother, especially during childhood, you may often notice how this has an impact on your adult relationships. Maybe you were raised by a controlling or unloving mother, or you had a neglectful childhood... All of these can be the cause of wounds that are not really recognized as you grow up, but become very apparent in adulthood. In addition, a mother's exhibiting the following behaviors can also set the stage for the development of maternal problems in her child:

- Insecure attachment types such as avoidant, anxious

- Being too controlling

- No interest at all

- Bullying

- Not offering unconditional love

- Manipulation

Children of mothers who exhibit one or some of these behaviors may develop maternal problems and may develop many emotional, psychological and social problems in adulthood. So, what should we pay attention to in order to recognize all these? Some of the problems we encounter in our daily lives or some dysfunctional behavioral habits we adopt may indicate the presence of mother problems.

If you are asking yourself the question, "Do I have mommy issues?", the following symptoms may help you find an answer to this question. Many studies point out that mother problems due to childhood traumas are much more common than previously thought. Symptoms of mother problems can manifest themselves in different ways and may include

- Fear of attachment in relationships

- Constant need for approval and trying to please others

- Fear of being cheated on and inability to have intimate relationships

- Constantly needing someone else

- Being sensitive to criticism

- Low self-perception

- Dominant jealousy and trust issues

- Lack of communication skills and broken relationships

- Tendency to seek a partner similar to the mother

- Separation anxiety and fear of abandonment

- Unstable moods and a sulking and reconciling attitude in relationships

- Being overprotective or giving undue attention

- Ongoing tension, stress and anxious states

- Constantly seeking love and not being able to express love

- Being overly judgmental and constantly critical

- Emotional and behavioral signals, such as dependency on someone or something, are different ways in which 'mommy issues' manifest themselves in daily life.

It can also be seen that an adult with mommy issues is moving forward in his/her own life according to his/her mother's truths and shaping his/her life according to her rules. In order to eliminate all of this, it is important for the adult who recognizes that they have mommy issues to do something about it.

Finally, mother issues are common, but trying to heal them instead of sweeping them under the rug is an important step in the journey of life. Even though your mother has an important role in your life, like any other mother, it is important to remember that your life is your own. As you read this article, you may have many childhood memories in your mind; you may remember the times you shared with your mother, the times when you were hurt and upset. But in spite of all this, you may be tempted to reject your mother because you can't put a bad behavior on her.

Think of it this way: your goal is not to blame your mother, but to heal yourself. Focus only on this and move on.