What I Hate about Myself

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4 years ago

What do you hate about yourself?

What's your biggest insecurity?

If you ever have the chance to change something about yourself, what would it be?

The process of being an adult is cutthroat. Puberty, if you're past or already in this phase, you'd know what it does to people.

Changes in the physical body are brutal. Your voice would change, there's hair growing out every where, acnes and pimples start appearing in your once fresh and smooth face.

Then there are emotional changes that worsen what you're feeling. You feel uncertain, overly-sensitive, confused and the mood swings. It's terrible you'd wish to just stay as a child forever.

But past that, you are already an adult.

Someone sure of what she/he desires. Someone with confidence to conquer the world with overflowing knowledge and skills. Someone matured, goal-centered and fearless.

But what if that wasn't the case for you?

What if you're still an adult that feels lost and dependent. You still feel uncertain on what to do next. You still need a manual, guide and anything that leads your way so you won't get lost.

You are still insecure. You have to have someone on your side and hold your hands or else you will tremble with anxiety this cruel world can give.

Insecurity is a deadly parasite that slowly kills its host. Even a child can feel insecure for their toys so what more to adults who are already at their peak of building their own name and career.

I have a lot of insecurity regarding my physical appearance but let's not dwell on that. This generation is already too obsessed with their standard of beauty that fitting to the format is too tiring...and expensive.

My biggest insecurity would be my tendency to compare myself to others which makes my other insecurities show up. This is really twisted and very hard to deal with.

It's like I am getting bruised because I am punching myself.

But slowly I am fighting this disease of mine. I want to let go and be free from this insecurity that keeps me from loving myself totally.

Comparing yourself to others is like differentiating apple from oranges. A waste of time. A waste of braincells. Why compare when both have their own strengths?

Insecurity is a btch that needs a upper hand to shut it up. A parasite needs a dose of treatments to kill it. Learn from the bruises it caused you and fight back.

Try to treat yourself better. Be kind to your own well-being. Stop staying at the gutter to feel down and self-pity. Embrace your flaws more. Embrace your past. Stop comparing! You already did enough of that in the past.

If you feel bad about yourself, do whatever it takes to make you feel better. See yourself in a better light. Whatever age you are right now, remember that insecurity is a total waste created and you're the one accepting the trash when you're not even a trash collector.

What I hate about myself is that I have to hate myself just because I see only my flaws and imperfections. Why can't I just love what makes me feel insecure to feel better.

Seek for self-love in the middle of insecurity.

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I always felt bad about my looks and I doubt that will ever change. My skin never looked young and fresh really but dehydrated and infected, thorn, blue spots. Therefore I never really had pimples and grew old at a very young age. I can not remember puberty really. I doubt I had one or it was recognized. What would I have changed? It's hard to tell since this is me, apparently.

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4 years ago

Sadly, if we're not born with gorgeous features, we can only try to inprove our looks through expensive products and skin care because the society dictated what does beautiful looks like 😞 We can only try to fight insecurity from the inside when we love ourselves more, I think πŸ˜‰

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4 years ago

What I hate about myself, is I can’t resist people that I love, my heart is so soft I’m so easy to forgive. I feel like I’m a fool.

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4 years ago

Ohhh. You have a very soft heart :< I don't think that is a bad thing but once you are already taken for granted because of it then, that is not good anymore for you. You should not please everyone you love. Just put yourself first and know your worth :> I think that can help you

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4 years ago

I'm not pleasing someone or anyone to love me; I just easy to forgive even how serious it is.

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4 years ago

Yeah, insecurity is the most common problem of an individual. In other time (actually mostly) we are compared to others which is way too eee... Remember, a rock is not peeble. (Tama ba? Haha)

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4 years ago

Oh no! Wala sa google yan :< sinearch ko hahahaha si The Rock lumalabas T^T baka ikaw nagpauso ng saying na yan ah (Pebble*)

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4 years ago

I think, we just can't easily tell ourselves that we should not compare us to others. We all have insecurities. We all have differences. And we cannot deny the fact that we tend to compare ourselves or our actions to someone else's. We just gotta deal with it the right way.

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4 years ago

True. Comparing ourselves to others is in our human nature. But let's not consume ourselves with those negative thoughts and become more open and hopeful that we can still do something about it to do better :>

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4 years ago

You absolutely hit a point.

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4 years ago

hit you with a dddu ddu dduu >.<

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4 years ago

Hahahahaha. So cute.

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4 years ago

I am so glad I got to read it at the right time. Haha! I was just feeling insecure a while back because of my body. I feel like I am getting fat again, and it makes me feel insecure, because of what others will think. Lol I have a lot of insecurities in my body, but I am also trying to accept them and love my own imperfections. Because if I won't love them myself, nobody will.

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4 years ago

Phew, perfect timing :> I think I feel the same too. I feel fat and heavy because of just staying home and not doing too much. This is our new normal. We just have to deal with this and try to stay active as much as we can, not to be sexy but for a healthy body. Body fats are normal and has its benefits so why get rid of it? haha. Screw the perfect body! Healthy body is the new sexy :>

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4 years ago

Comparing yourself to others is like differentiating apple from oranges.

This is a game-changer. Boom! You got it right girl.

Why do we feel insecure with ourselves? Simply because of societal expectations. We don't feel belongingness if we fail to meet the expectations. As a result, we tend to become aloof and isolate ourselves from everyone.

However, we need to realize that each of us has a purpose in this world. We have our own capabilities that are of relevance to someone and will be a contribution to society.

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4 years ago

πŸ’― right! We try to fit in this world just to feel accepted and we belong to the society that has a very twisted standard of what's beautiful or not. Because of that, we look ourselves in the mirror and just see the bad things, then, we will feel unwanted and lacking in so many areas when truth is, we're equally significant :< Thank you for sharing your thoughts @Jeaneth :>

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4 years ago

Yeah sure. We know it's not gonna be easy to tell ourselves not to compare with others. The first step of getting rid our insecurities is Acceptance. However, the first step is always the hardest so it needs extra mile of motivation and passion ☺

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4 years ago

Wow you are so good at this. The First step is always the hardest to take. We have to risk getting hurt first before we learn to let go of what's hurting us :> You're right!!

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4 years ago

Thanks, hihi. It is because of my experience. I must say that I have overcome the insecurities I have in me, and with that, I never cared about what the society is telling me from then because I know for myself that I have a purpose. I must bring out the best of my second chance. It was really a tough battle between yourself. Your biggest enemy is no other than yourself eh.

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