Answer this honestly for yourself.
Will you be able to keep a secret? Without telling it to others close to you?
"Three may keep a secret, if two of them are dead." –Benjamin Franklin, Poor Richard's Almanack
This is a really powerful quote. Keeping secrets is tricky and almost a burden to those who cannot hold any confidential information among themselves.
Everyone of us has secrets. Sometimes is it wise to keep it in for ourselves but some secrets are hard to keep. You have to have someone who knows it as well to share to burden or to not make you feel suffocated.
Once you give trust on somebody with your secret, it is crucial and only Time can tell whether it will be exposed or not. You have to give a leap of faith that she will keep it with her on her grave.
"A secret remains a secret until you make someone promise never to reveal it." –Fausto Cercignani
For me, this means that a secret is no longer a secret once you reveal it to someone and expect him to hide it. This is hard to believe but we can never really expect someone to not tell, like 100%, because we tell them not to.
I know how hard it is to keep a secret. I am guilty that some secrets shared to me, I also shared them to my other close friends as long as it is not any DARK pasts and sorrows that I forbid to share to protect what is entrusted to me. I know I am not that good with secrets for I am very close with my mama who I share everything with.
I will never generalize because I am sure this is not the case for everybody. Most people are honest to not kiss and tell. They have engraved in their hearts to hide something, even if it is so hard to do it because they might get into trouble or worse, suffer from it.
Secrets are promises that are kept between people who trust one another but it can also feel like a PRISON to someone who can hardly hide it from guilt and fear for the person with secret who might experience the pain of once it is revealed.
Keeping secrets is wise but thinking that it will stay hidden forever can be foolish because we all know that TIME can tell everything even the trashes we put under the rug.
One thing is for sure, you should share secrets only when you know you can keep one yourself. As much as possible, learn first to keep one before you share one because you can never expect someone to do it for you if you can't do it yourself.
We all have secrets. We all have told secrets. We all have kept secrets. How to deal with it is our choice. Remember the first quote: secrets are only safe once you tell someone and the next day, they are dead.
If we don't want the burden, make sure not to engage into something you will never be proud of to disclose.
I can keep a secret. Why? Because what is told is rarely worth spreading around (besides of the fact I hardly talk to people) and I do not need the gossip or any secret to make myself and break someone. If you want to keep a secret do not share. If two know about it it's no secret anymore.