One day, before starting the seminar, someone with a short and smiling face came and said, “Dear, I want to kiss your hand. Since I don't like hand kissing very much, I said let's kiss on the cheek, we kissed. There was a conversation between us as follows:
- why did you want to kiss my hand?
- Sir, I attended one of your seminars three years ago. My life has changed.
After that seminar I have a happier family and I want to thank you; I wanted to kiss your hand for her.
- What happened, how did it happen?
- Three years ago, you were with us at a two-day seminar organized by our company. Towards the end of that seminar, you said, "A man's homeland is his childhood. It is very difficult for a person who has not lived his childhood to the fullest. The most important duty of a mother and a father is to let their children live their childhood to the fullest.
is to create possibilities. ”He paused for a while, thought as if he wanted to remember something, then continued to speak:
- You said it for even more; You said, "The most important duty of a nation is for its children to live their childhood to the fullest.
"When I heard about you as a father, I thought to myself: As a father, do I create opportunities for my child to live to the fullest of his childhood? I realized that such a question had never occurred to me until then. What am I doing? I thought.
I guess I did do was the same that many fathers. My nine-year-old son was trying not to see me and to escape from me when I came home from work. You know why he was trying to run away?
- No. Why?
- Because when I saw him, I was immediately asking this question. "Son, did you do your homework today?" Strange looking strange, averting, even more
* when he squeezed it, he made the "squeal" sound, which means no. * I was angry, I was said, "Why don't you do your homework!" I was saying.
There was constant quarrels and frictions between us. Of course, as a result, the whole family was getting uneasy.
Here he paused a little, gasped. It was as if there were memories he didn't want to remember; he was trying to overcome them. Then he continued to speak:
- I started thinking after I left your seminar. "What kind of dad am I?" I asked myself. I came for the seminar *
I thought until I went from Istanbul to Kayseri, where I work; I thought all night on the bus, and then I said to myself, let me talk to my wife, let's make a decision together. Let's say this child can stay in the classroom for five years if he wants, but live to the fullest childhood.
- A radical decision! *
- Yes, it is an extreme decision, but this decision was very good for me, Sir.
My nervousness and sadness were gone, and I was relieved. When I came home, I said to my wife, let's sit down and talk. We sat down after dinner, the children slept and we continued to talk. I conveyed what was told in the seminar, I explained to him like this, like this and that, and finally I said, let me tell you what is in my heart. We have a son, our son, if he wants, he can stay in the classroom for five years, but live his childhood! Until now, we have not made much effort to have him live his childhood, we have not shown a consciousness, we have left it to his will. Let's change it now.
- What did your spouse say?
- Do you know what happened?
- What happened?*
- My wife looked at me in amazement and said, "What kind of seminar is this! Who is this man? Is that so?
While our child is living his childhood, he will progress beyond the other classes! It doesn't happen. "
- I understand; As a mother, she does not want her child to be left behind, she is worried!
- But teacher, I did not give up, I did not quit, I continued the struggle.
Every day, every evening I talked to my wife until midnight. After three nights he said to me, well see what you are.
- He gave up, so. Well, what have you done?
- On the morning of the day he said it, I left my sweatpants and shoes by the door and went to work; When I got back from work, I looked into my son's eyes and said, son, did you play to the full today? He looked at me in amazement and said, "No!" He said "go" which means. Then, we'll go down together Come on, we'll play, I said. I wore my Headdresses, I put on my shoes, went out with him to the street. His friends were looking at the window, and they went out onto the street; we played games on the street together. We were on the street from six in the evening until half past eight. When we came home, we were covered in dust, we went to the bathroom together and took a shower. I dried it on the towel, we were very happy and after that day I started playing with it every day when I got back from work. I played every day, every day, every day.
I guess it was seven days and eight days later, one day when I got out of the bathroom I was setting him up with a towel, he grabbed my arm, turned to me and said, daddy, I love you very much. My teacher! my breath stopped, my eyes watered so I did not speak. Because I realized he had never said he loved it until now. I thought, I was unaware that you had never said it until now; maybe he wouldn't say it for life.
What a danger! ”For life I would not have been aware that he had not said this sentence to me.
- So you realize, congratulations. This situation that you realize is a latent, latent but important danger that many mothers and fathers are unaware of!
- A feeling of gratitude in me, I dried and dressed my child with a towel, and now we continue to play every day. Time passed, two weeks later the school invited the teacher to the school for a parent meeting. In previous parents' meetings, the teacher said, "Your son is a smart child, but his homework is scribbled, he is not paying attention. He is bothering your friends in class, pushing them, please talk to him. Pay attention to his homework, do not disturb your friends in class. Let him do his homework properly." he said. That's why I was afraid of going to the teachers meeting. When this invitation came, I said to my wife, let's go to the school meeting together!
He said no! You will go alone, I will not come.
- Your spouse didn't want to come! *
- No, he didn't. Either let's go together, I insisted he said no, no, you will go alone. I went alone, and as the other parents came, although it was my turn, I got behind the desk so that I could talk to the teacher without anyone else.
I thought I would be embarrassed. I was thinking that everything was getting worse. At long last all the parents finished talking to the teachers and left.
It is my turn! I went in front of the teacher, looked at me and smiled, what did you do to this kid, he said. I never answered, I looked in front of me. Please tell me what did you do to this kid, he said. "Too bad teacher?" I asked. He smiled, said no, not bad. "Now he doesn't bother his friends in class at all, his homework has improved, he's just the student I wanted. What did you do to this kid?"
- Probably you were very happy as a father?
- Do you know, Sir, I started crying in front of the teacher.
I couldn't believe my ear, inside of me, wow boy, what have we done to you so far, it had a feeling. I came home, my wife looked at my face, my eyes red from crying. "Is it that bad?" he asked. I couldn't answer him either, Sir, I couldn't answer him either! I cried. I told you later.
Sir, I wanted to kiss your hand for him, thank you. You saved the life of my son and his little daughter. My family's happiness has been saved. Indeed, a man's homeland was his childhood. A child whose homeland is happy would do his work and school with all his might and would be successful there.
"Come let me embrace you again!" I said. We hugged.
"For the children to laugh!" let's live Because the homeland of man is his childhood.
If children grow up laughing and playing, the adults will laugh at the end.
If the old people laugh, then the whole country, the whole humanity will laugh.
Greetings to all who serve the laughter of the children!