The 80/20 Rule In Relationships and What I Learned About It

Do you know there's an 80/20 rule for relationships? If not I'll explain to you how it works and what is this rule all about. When it comes to picking a relationship, every one of us sets standards, right?

We have an ideal kind of partner with whom we wanna spend our lives. Some of us want a good-looking partner, attractive ones, caring, easy to get along with, share the same interests. But because of the uniqueness of people, we can't always get all the personalities and traits that we want from a person. there will always be imperfections, even you.

That's when the 80/20 rule comes in. Most of the time, only 80% of our standards are met, the remaining 20% is you must provide it for yourself. That's why most relationships end because they want that 20% that they will never have with their partners. Maybe that 20% is the time you spend together, the patience of the person, or even how the person is good in bed. That's why the main cause of why relationships end is because of the third party because some other men of women have that 20% missing from your partner, you failed to realize that picking that 20% will cause you to lose that 80% you found from your partner.

And you will end up regretting what you did. Have you experienced this? Hardly looking for that 20% and ended up with nothing? If yes, I hope you already learned your lesson and not repeat it if you want to have a more stable and happy relationship.

For having a stable relationship, in my opinion, we must have that contentment in our hearts for what we already have because not everything we wanted, he/she can provide. We are born imperfect, and that's what makes us unique in our ways. You, yourself is imperfect, but you are a beautiful being. As long as we always do the best we can, that is enough.

And if you're the ones had experienced being cheated on, you also must be thankful that God avoids you from the wrong person. You are wonderful, you are deserved to be loved, you don't deserve to be hurt.

We hurt, but we're learning. That's the most important thing we need to remember, the lesson each experience taught us. They taught us to be brave, to get stronger, and to move on. Moving on from the past is a hard thing to do when you had a lot of happy and memorable moments with that person. But if maybe you are not destined to be together, always remember that you will surely find the best for yourself.

We just need to learn to love again after all we endured and sacrificed. That's one way to be truly happy, always have that love in your heart, and never lose hope.

It's okay to get tired, it's okay to feel sad. It's okay to feel all emotions, that's all-natural. But it's always up to you if what emotion you want to live the rest of your life. Stay strong and defeat all your demons.

I learned that the 80/20 rule is mainly about your contentment on things that you already have. That's one way to be happy in a relationship. And the other thing I learned is acceptance. Accepting your partner's flaws and imperfection as you, yourself also is imperfect.

I also learned that every decisions you make have pros and cons. How you handle things is always important. You always must prioritize the valuable things such as relationships with people. This also applies in friendships. You can't always be dependent and always save something for yourself. And lastly, never get tired of loving.