How To Make Your Relationship Last

“Two is better than one.” 

Yes, being in a relationship could be a beautiful thing for others. Finding the love of your life could be one of the happiest moment. They say that love is magical as it can bring the colors of the rainbow into your blue life, it can bring a smile to a frowning heart and can melt even the most frozen heart. In simple words, love and being in a relationship could bring a change in someone's boring life. But forever does not exist in this world, change is inevitable, so as time goes by, either you or your partner will change. Be it for the better or it might bring your happy relationship into worst that you might even feel giving up on each other is the best thing to do.

What causes these changes?

These are the problems caused by misunderstandings, money matters or contradicting preferences and beliefs. Most of the time, having a third party involved is also one of the reasons why a happy relationship can be ruined and sometimes, a simple falling out of love. These reasons are usually the culprits of breakups. But it still depends on the couple whether they will face these problems heads on and save the relationship or let it assail their relationship.

Tips to have a lasting relationship:

• Develop your communication skills. Conflicts are inevitable, but communicating well is the key to resolve conflicts. How you communicate can either make or break the relationship. Disagreements and misunderstandings due to a poor communication skills can cause anger and more conflicts. So it is vital to develop your skills in communicating. How to do that?

Consider the following:

• Focus on what the other says.

• Listen first before butting in or reacting.

• Learn to compromise

• Don't give up with communication.

• Admit your mistakes.

• Know the point of view of your partner.

These tips are proven to be effective in developing communication skills even for other kinds of relationships.

• If conflicts arise, understand the problem. In every relationship, conflicts arise when there is a misunderstanding. We all have the tendency to misunderstand because we are all imperfect. A small conflict might turn into chaos if both parties doesn't understand what really is the problem. And failure to understand each other perfectly usually leads to breakups - and for married couples, separation or divorce.

• Change that negative mindset! Negativity is sometimes the root of a conflict. I've seen and observed a lot of people who are in a relationship who always doubt their partner without reasonable grounds. Some girls always think negative about themselves, perceives their own self as ugly or unattractive, thus their partner might look for someone more beautiful and dump them or cheat on them. In this scenario, trusting your partner is the key. Have trust on his or her love for you and look for the positive in yourself and your partner as well. Get to know him or her more because if you truly know your partner, you will tend to trust him or her more. Optimism will help you overcome the challenges in your relationship.

• Recall the reason why you fell in love. If your relationship is already hanging by a cliff, would you still hold on? Well for many, they choose to hold on and rescue such relationships. So when everything seems to be so challenging and you can no longer hold on to the relationship, travelling back in time and remembering the reason why you fell for your partner might help your heart and mind to decide, remembering the good times might help you rekindle the flame of love you once had for him or her.

• Be considerate. Yes, we all make mistakes, so it might help if you just let simple mistakes pass. But this doesn't mean you'll have to be a 'martyr', being considerate is only applicable to unintentional mistakes. But if they are already doing the same mistake over and over gain intentionally, then it might be better to talk it out. Being considerate of each other can save relationships.

There is no perfect relationship, as we are imperfect ourselves. But if both you and your partner will try to apply these tips, it might be the key to achieving a healthy relationship. Having a healthy relationship means that you work as a team, meaning, both of you strives to fill each other's need in a balanced way.