"Parenting"

Parenting is an important issue. But the fear is that most parents in our country are not aware of this. But the future of the child depends on the parent. The physical, mental and social skills of a child largely determine the parenting style. So it is important to have a good idea about parenting to get the ideal young generation or perfect manpower. Because today's children are the citizens of tomorrow.

What is parenting style?

Simply put, parenting style is a technique of raising children. That is, how you care for your child, what you teach, how you treat him, how you control him are all parenting styles.

Diana Baumbind's Parenting Style Doctrine:

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Diana Baumbind is a psychologist. She has been researching the relationship between parents and children for many years. Called style doctrine.

He has researched that the behavior of the parents has a strong effect on the child's young mind. Children are always fond of imitation. He unknowingly contains the behavior, thoughts, values, social skills, etc. of the parents.

Diana Baumbind initially identified 3 styles in her parenting style theory.

1) Authoritarian

2) Authoritative

3) Permissive.

Macoby and Martin later expanded the doctrine in 1983 on two grounds. The two issues are:

Demanding <What methods do parents use to control their child's behavior?

Responsiveness <How parents respond to their children's emotional and developmental needs.

Considering these two issues, they have divided Diana Baumbind's doctrine into two parts, namely:

1.Indulgent parenting.

2. Neglectful parenting.

1) Authoritarian parenting

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It is a parenting style where parents impose their decisions and opinions on their children. Here parents have high expectations of the child. So they expect blind imitation from the child. Autocratic parents do not want to give freedom of expression like a child. "That's what I said, that's what you have to do," he said.

They try to legitimize their actions by defining their thought love as hard love.

Children of authoritarian parents suffer from inferiority complex, cannot become confident and have low social skills. Studies show that they do not do well in tests.

Later, various mental complications are also seen in such children.

2) Authoritative parenting:

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In this type of parenting style, parents have expectations of the child, but they do not impose their own views on the child. The importance of the child's opinion and in some cases freedom is given as needed. Yes. Parents control the child's behavior to a moderate extent. They try to explain the child by reasoning without harsh discipline.

The child's social skills increase as they respond to their children's mental and physical needs. They have a sense of self-respect and a tendency to adapt to everyone. As a result, they became the darlings of everyone in the society.

They can also get good results in studies. They can make quick and right decisions later. These children become kind and responsible. Research has shown that children who grow up in an authoritative parenting style do not suffer from mental health problems.

3) Indulgent parenting / Permissive parenting:

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In such parenting style, parents show excessive empathy towards their children. Children are allowed to grow as they please. Parents do not rule them out or impose any restrictions. Or even if they do, they relax when their children cry a little.

In this kind of parenting style, children make mistakes because they want to. They can't tell right from wrong in making decisions. They can't fit in with people other than their parents. Their physical development and mental abilities aren't perfect. Proper eating habits do not develop. Most of them eat junk food because they do not develop proper eating habits. Therefore, they have a higher risk of obesity. They do not do well in the test.

4) Neglectful parenting / Permissive parenting:

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In this parenting style, children are utterly neglected by their parents. They are indifferent to both the child's affection and discipline. Perhaps in these cases the parents already have a mental problem of their own. Or they may have neglected their own children because they were so neglected in their childhood.

In this kind of parenting style, parents do not have any expectations towards the child. As a result, the children do not understand their duties and grow up haphazardly.

In these cases, children do not understand their faults and mistakes. In this kind of parenting style, children always try to get the attention of the parents. They cannot achieve full mental development and social skills.

They do not learn to self-evaluate or to be responsible. As a result, a person does not become a good person in life. When they grow up, they are indifferent about their parents and do not want to take responsibility.

They become inattentive in their studies.

# Which type of parenting style is most effective?

The answer is Authoritative parenting. Long studies have shown that such parenting styles have very good results for children. Every parent wants their child to grow up to be healthy, happy, kind and responsible. Among the four types of parenting style, the desired development can be noticed in the child in the dominant parenting style. They become everyone's favorite because of their extraordinary mental and social skills. No bad response was found in such parenting style.

# What should be the parenting style for children with special needs?

The four parenting styles mentioned above have all been studied in normal children. But those with autism or autism are identified as special children. Since they are different than normal, the parenting style will be different for them. They need to take extra care or special care than others. They should be given an environment where they can grow spontaneously without expecting anything in return.

# Finally, I would like to say that today's children will become full-fledged people of the future and will take the helm of the family and society. So bring up your child with enough time, moderate discipline and care. Remember, the more care and warmth you give, the more discreet and beautiful his personality will be.