Forms the basis from which mere friends may advance to something more complicated demanding and pinching. If you decide to marry someone without in depth and adequate knowledge of the person, you will live with the significant, negative and lasting consequence on the decision for the rest of your life,whether or not you stay married to that person.Look before you leap ,come with me to my consulting room where you will he true but private, painful, traumatic , dramatic and heart wrenching accounts of the experience of innocent people looking for love and romance.

Love at first sight

• FOLAKE, a flight attendant with an intercontinental airline , met Tunde on board a flight to Germany . Folake noticed that, while she went about her duties busily,Tunde kept looking at her. She smiled politely and served him as she did all the other passengers in the first cabin. When she went to pick up his tray, he grabbed her hand and ca her by name. She was shocked ,not realizing that her name tag was pinned to her breast pocket in plain sight,He asked"Are you a christian ?" she was taken aback by this question, because in all her years of flying no one had ever asked her this question, Folake later told me, was what has first caught her interest . She told him that she was, and asked him the same question. He affirmed this and said he was a leader in his church.

• Folake and Tunde kept in touch after this flight. Folake lived in Lagos and Tunde in USA. They communicated by phone and email everyday. Their friendship began to grow individually and together on the phone they prayed to God to help and lead them One day Tunde called Folake and proposed to her she accepted sincerely believing that was the will of God.Wanting ro be double sure Folake decided to talk to a pastor about marriage proposal .After praying, the pastor confirmed that 7t was the will of God This gave her courage , so she went ahead with plans to marry Tunde. Their marriage celebrated with great pomp and pageantry ,soon met with many challenges . One of these was securing a visa for Folake to enter the USA. She was unable to get a visa immediately and the immigration laws barred her from entering the USA until her application has been approved.....