Although exact figures are not yet available on this subject, there are studies that can help us to outline the new order. There are more singles now than before, at least in Western societies. Estimates made according to independent research reveal that 1 out of every 4 adults over the age of 50 is never married. There are some places where the numbers are clearer. For example; One in two adults lives alone in New York.
So what is the reason for this? The answer is not easy to find. This new lifestyle is so new that we still don't have precise data to reveal to people. On the contrary, different hypotheses are used to explain this fact. For example; such as when people witness long extramarital partnerships around them, and these people talk about marriage as a burden they do not want to bear.
“I don't want someone who is always with me and tells me that everything will improve. I prefer someone who will look me in the eye and say, "Everything is ruined, but don't worry, I'm with you."
- Yoha Navarrete
At the same time, emotional and mental disturbances are growing in the world: such as the increase in depression cases and all kinds of ailments. If we do not blame our genes and approach it from a biological perspective, we can say that what happens in the world is closely related to weak and dysfunctional emotional ties. Perhaps the fact that there are more singles in the world is part of the same logic.
Singles and lonely
There are many singles who live well and happily. This shows that celibacy does not mean loneliness or loneliness does not mean isolation. These people often refer to people who consciously choose not to live as a couple. What is common in these people is that they have other interests that fill the gaps in their lives.
The decision to stay single is almost always motivated by a desire to focus all the energy on one or more projects like work. They do what they love, they don't get caught in the dilemma of whether to spend less time at work to respond to their family's wishes. Even with such a lifestyle, they have very strong friendship and family ties. They usually have partners.
Those alone, on the other hand, aren't very clear why they don't have a stable partner to live with. The often given answer is that they haven't found the right person. However, they are not very comfortable living alone. They lead routine life. It is common for them to have feelings of lack of interest or sadness.
There are also other types of loneliness. These people do not have long-term relationships and constantly change partners. The term "living in the moment" is a suitable definition for them. They live in unpredictable moments, sort of like puberty.
Reasons to be single
Sociologists explain the reason why celibacy has spread to such a wide audience with different hypotheses. Some point to an increase in egocentrism like never before. The person becomes the center of everything. The main concern of many people is their own "egocentric" understanding. Therefore, they do not want to be in a constant state of responding to the feelings and needs of others.
Likewise, the idea that the "electoral paradox" operates has been put forward. The paradox of choice includes: Previously, the number of potential people we could get to know was limited. The Internet has made this potential network of relationships virtually seamless. Therefore, the number of potential partners has increased immensely. This emerging potential partner has a confusion in the decision-making mechanism.
It is precisely for this reason that when a person decides to choose a partner, on the other hand he thinks that he or she has lost other options. The reason he thinks about this is that there are always other options that he "will have". People always desire to seek what they don't have, rather than being grateful for what they have.
Loneliness and dating
Many people seem to have forgotten that being together is like establishing a new order. Being in a relationship is not just about flirting or having sex.
Conversation, agreeing on an idea, having conflicts and gaining new experiences together are the cornerstones that make a relationship relationship.