,Every human being must have experienced failure in life. Sometimes failure leaves many people down in life and feeling depressed. Usually the failure that is felt by humans comes from expectations that are too high and collided with a different reality.
After experiencing a failure, many people find it difficult to get up or move on from that failure. Many people also don't understand emotions and how to care for their own expectations. Now to answer these questions Hipwee held a live Instagram session with one of One Percent's mentors, Irfandi Khainur Rahim. Come see the full Hipwee chat below It should be noted that failure is a common thing in human life. There are also several phases that humans feel when they experience failure
It needs to be underlined that failure is something that every human being feels natural about. In fact, almost everyone in this world feels like a failure. The problem is how do we make peace with this failure. There's no definite time when we can move on from failure. All depends on us in reacting to it. When experiencing failure, there are usually several phases. The first is denial phase or deny that we fail. After we pass this phase we will feel angry at ourselves because we failed and end up in depression. But when we can get through the depression phase we will be able to accept the failure or make peace and start to get up and try again.
Recognize emotions and feelings and always realize that failure is something that usually happens is how we rise from failure
Then how do we rise from failure? First of all, most people don't know and don't understand the emotions and feelings they feel themselves. From this ignorance we usually become overwhelmed with these emotions. Sometimes we also feel that we don't deserve to fail and get angry. Whereas in psychology it is stated that the emotions of anger, disappointment and sadness are neutral and natural things we feel. If we already recognize our emotions when we fail and understand that failure is common, then we will easily go through the phases to rise from failure. Lowering expectations and focusing on action is the best way to treat expectations
Basically, expectations can be the origin of the feelings of disappointment and sadness that we feel. When we have the courage to have expectations, we are ready to suffer the consequences. Better to lower expectations but try your best in action. The easiest way to treat them is to imagine the worst that will happen to these expectations. In addition, there is a way to determine expectations, namely by choosing specific goals so that we can reach the lowest thing in our goals. Actually, by lowering expectations, we will avoid overthinking and other things. So, here are some ways to rise from failure and care for our expectations. Hopefully this information and methods can help friends who are feeling down. Keep the spirit of living, huh! ~
