,Because in this world there are more than 4 billion people, you will also meet the characters of various people. Some are fun and you want to be friends forever, but some are annoying and if you can avoid them forever. Unfortunately, you don't always get to choose the people you want to meet. Especially when you enter the world of work, whether you like it or not, you must be able to work with people who are of various characters.
Therefore, without the right tricks to get along, you will waste your energy on unnecessary things. Maybe that's what makes your life feel so burdensome. Because the environment, and how you deal with the environment is a very determining fact for success. So that those who don't feel tired constantly, let's follow the ways of smart people to socialize. 1. If it is well known that their mouths often leak, then don't take the risk of sharing their secret stories with them
Among the people around you, there must be one that is a source of information for everyone. The simple term is gossip. He knows update stuff that no one else knows. Such people are both very useful and dangerous. He can give you the info you need, as well as the information you don't want to share. People like this usually have a warm nature, are fun to chat with, and are friendly with everyone. But smart people will think twice about sharing secret info with them. Because those who have the seeds of 'gossipers' are not recommended to be friends to confide in.
2. If a friend is lying, just follow the game. No need to confront him, the point is that you just know
The signs that someone is lying can actually be seen if we are sensitive enough. Because your mouth can make up stories, but your body movements can't deceive you. Whether it's knowing from other sources, or understanding yourself from reading gestures, being lied to is painful. Besides feeling annoyed, there is also a sense of being ignored. Is that right? However, a smart person will not confront directly if a friend is lying in plain sight. Besides wasting energy, it also feels less elegant. He will either stay quiet, or follow the game. Precisely then you can laugh at his lies in your heart. The important thing is you just know that he cannot be trusted. 3. Satire always hurts. But smart people know how to play dumb and ignore all hints
"Oh, come home late at night? It must be really rich! " Would you agree that being teased and criticized is more annoying than being confronted directly. Satire is much more painful than when it says its true meaning. But people who tease are usually those who don't dare to convey their thoughts directly. Because responding to them is just a waste of time. Smart people know what to care for and what is better off ignoring. Pretending not to hear, or pretending to be stupid is wiser. That way, you will also be more determined to move.
4. Smart people don't need to have many friends. But they knew who was worth keeping
Your life has become tough, perhaps because you feel the need to please everyone. You want to be a friend to everyone. Because of that, you try hard to change yourself in the name of conforming to be accepted. If so, it's only natural that your life will be difficult. Because no matter how you try, we won't be able to please everyone. Smart people know they don't have to have many friends. Because even many friends do not guarantee that they are not lonely, because there are always people to rely on. Smart people know exactly who is worth keeping.
5. Smart people know who to avoid. Spending time responding to them will only be self-defeating
Apart from knowing who was worth defending, they also knew who to avoid. There is the manipulative, who will dedicate his whole life to making you submit to him. There he is the narcissist, who will always try to focus everyone's attention on him. There is a complaining person who can suck up the positive energy you have, so you are tempted to complain too. Because the environment is very decisive. You have to be able to identify people who have bad influences in your life, and then avoid them. 6. Smart people will not be easily provoked. Heart management and keeping a distance from a perspective is her specialty
Heart management is a must-have to get through everyday life. Just as finances have to be regulated, so are emotions. One way is to always keep a distance from events. That way, you won't be easily provoked by information that you don't know the truth yourself. The times have made information spread so easily. Because we have to choose and sort out what is right and what is wrong. Rushing to conclusions would be embarrassing besides being detrimental. 7. When a problem occurs, finding a solution is the thing that becomes the focus. Not finding out who is most guilty of all this
Problems happen to be resolved. First of all, you really have to know the root of the problem, and why it happened. From there, you will find the perfect solution. A smart person won't spend time looking for the most guilty of all of this. That can wait later, because right now the most important thing is finding a solution. If in the end he himself was the most guilty, he would not be busy looking for scapegoats either. Rather than blaming others, he chooses to admit that he made a mistake and fix it immediately. 8. Continuing to hold grudges against other people will actually use up energy. Forgiveness doesn't mean forgetting, but at least your burden will also be lessened
Holding a grudge in your heart is tantamount to burdening yourself. You will continue to remember how sick the treatment you received. A person who holds a grudge is perhaps much more burdened than he who makes a mistake. Because of that, smart people won't bother holding grudges. The principle is that forgiveness does not mean forgetting. By forgiving, it means you release the burden from your heart. But you also took the lesson that he who hurt you can't be trusted anymore. That knowledge is more profitable than constantly resentful and torturing yourself. The environment around us and the people we meet on a daily basis cannot change. They have their own life and character. But you can choose how to behave in a relationship. Since this is your own life, you alone can decide what color it is.
