Infidelity seems so normal nowadays. It's one of the biggest challenges to deal with in modern society. Almost all divorces are due to betraying spouses in a marriage. Infidelity and divorce are very old however their phases seem to expand with time and generations.
Infidelity is also known as cheating, betraying, adultery, being unfaithful, disloyalty, or having an affair. It is a breaking of a couple's or spouse's presumed or remarked contract and vows. It is also an act of having a romantic or sexual relationship with someone else other than your girlfriend, partner, or spouse.
Many factors can affect one's relationship and marriage. But in this article, we will discuss the cause and effect of infidelity in human life not only to husbands and wives but also to their children and society.
Now let us first discuss the cause of infidelity. Check below.
1) The inability to meet each other expectations, necessities, and desires in one relationship. Most of the time, we are expecting something from our partners, it is also based on what they promise and swear when our relationship starts but when they failed to provide our expectations and desires we often start to seek attention and satisfaction from someone else.
2) The habit of not spending enough time with one another. Relationships take a lot of time and effort not only the word of sweetness and fruitful flavors. Time is a very crucial thing from every angle.
3) When the relationship is not formed with love there is a 100% chance of cheating in both parties. Love should come first before a commitment.
4)The feeling of being unwanted and unloved. There are also situations where you ignore your partner. And that when your partner starts to lose some confidence in your relationship and seek attention from someone else.
5) Immaturity. Immaturity could lead to many obstacles in one relationship and marriage. Being immature cause the inability to deal with problems and consequences. For example, running away from problems. Instead of dealing with the problem right away you rather choose to seek someone who can understand your situation. There have been many examples where a spouse reported that they found a coworker and friends with whom they could share their problems and feel comfortable, which was the beginning of the affair.
6)Vices and bad habits like playing games and too much screen time instead of having a conversation and bond as a couple. Vices such as cigarette smoking and drug addiction can lead someone to run away from their partners.
7) Colleagues' bad influence and consent. Sometimes people tend to go with the flow even it is not the right thing to do because they don't want to spoil the moment and they end up falling in love with someone else.
8) Long-distance relationship is prone to cheating. Being unable to see one another for a long time will drive you to loneliness and longing for someone to cuddle with. And that loneliness will find new sources of pleasures that might include interacting with other people which leads to cheating.
9) Physical appearance changes and the inability to do something special more than being a spouse can lead to infidelity. Most of the time husbands seek someone more attractive and competent than their wives. When their spouse starts to have body changes like gaining weight, stretch marks visibilities, wrinkles, and skin aging they tend to lose their affection and look for someone instead of helping their partner to bring back their shape and confidence.
10) Revenge. When the relationship has a history of infidelity, there is a chance of revenge from one who is initially hurt and call it even.
I think I already enlist the major reason why people cheat and now let's move on to the effect of this miserable scenario of one relationship and marriage.
Effect of Infidelity
It is so obvious that it can ruin a relationship and can lead to marriage destruction. No one wants to stay in an unfaithful and shady situation. Cheating is one of the major reasons for serious distress to family bliss and therefore its impacts on the family are numerous. There are possibilities that they can ruin the family completely and get a divorce. When the other side learns about the unfaithfulness in marriage this may completely crush emotions and cannot continue relating normally with a spouse. There were always feelings of doubt and unsure in every situation. If both sides agree to continue living with one another there were frequent fights and misunderstandings. Most often the reason behind their agreement to stay attached was their children and nothing more. Children will also have a hard time coping with their parent's current situation.
There are even cases where a cheater goes to the extent of killing their spouses after knowing about their affair.
Both parties might feels of being helpless or trapped in the situation. It might lead to depression, anxiety, and social distress like being humiliated.
There is a high possibility of having a contagious disease like gonorrhea and HIV/AIDS.
Whether you stay in a relationship or not, doubt and trust issues will always be there after the incidence of cheating.
There are many possible causes and effects of cheating. Thus, people in marriage should secure their partners/spouses and avoid temptations and baits for infidelity as much as they can since infidelity has a lot of bad effects on families, especially with children. Knowing your place and limitation can help you to avoid the act of infidelity. Since infidelity can happen not only once, husbands and wives should be keen to notice when their spouses cheating.
