I love December!

Traditionally, December (the last month of the year) is considered as the end of a stage. And we are already thinking about how to personally improve next year. December lends itself to reflect on what we have lived and what we will live in the near future. It is something psychological that happens in many people, but as a personal evaluation it is valid. We should always close cycles and reflect on new situations trying not to repeat patterns of behavior that are not favorable for us to grow as a person.

Self-evaluation guides us in an effective way. Let's make a self-evaluation now in December. We must be sincere at the moment of thinking about the way we are behaving and how we are relating to other people. Self-esteem plays an important role in this regard. How we perceive ourselves, our thoughts and feelings will be a way of self-evaluation of ourselves.

Self-esteem changes throughout our lives, we must always keep in mind that the messages we receive from the outside are also variable, our way of interpreting our life experience changes, and also our way of interpreting what happens around us. All these factors are perceived differently depending on the self-esteem we have.

It is possible that we can observe in some people with low self-esteem the tendency not to love themselves, not to value themselves, to the point of not giving themselves respect. They humiliate themselves only to seek approval from other people. To go to the extreme of humiliating oneself has to do with self-esteem, with that feeling of low self-worth as a person, they get involved in negative emotions and feelings of suffering and pain that remain inside the person.

But why do some people tend to humiliate themselves? Losing respect to the point of humiliation, damaging themselves emotionally. I will try to highlight some indicators of the reasons about this characteristic of people who tend to self-humiliation.

Most of the times we look for the acceptance of others in certain circumstances of life, since by nature we are social beings, and therefore we do not like to be alone. We not only need contact with other people, but we also need to feel loved, we need affection and acceptance in areas of our life, family, social and work. People with low self-esteem seeking acceptance humiliate themselves to be taken into account because of their need for acceptance or fear of rejection. An example of this is the case of a person who performs some humiliating action towards himself in order to be accepted by his friends in his social group. This usually happens very frequently in the adolescent stage, and parents have to be aware of any change in their children's behavior, which makes them suspect that the adolescent humiliates himself or herself in order to seek acceptance and affection among his or her "friends".

In the workplace, adults often humiliate themselves in order to keep their jobs. At one time I was working for an oil company in my country, we were several people who were hired for a personnel training project. At that time, when our contracts were about to end, some people resorted to different strategies to try to become permanent employees. I observed at that time how people went so far as to humiliate themselves for a permanent job.

In a couple's relationship, it can also lead a person to accept humiliation in order to avoid being abandoned by his or her partner. The person who is abandoned by his/her partner resorts to humiliation, begs his/her partner not to leave him/her, calls him/her at all hours crying, is capable of doing anything not to lose that person. This person has a low self-esteem, his affective need is reflected by an emotional dependence or fear of loneliness.

There are many ways in which we humiliate ourselves and many times we don't realize it. But if you become aware of situations where you feel you are humiliating yourself, you should think of yourself as a being of virtues, of loving yourself, of accepting yourself as you are, with your defects and virtues, without losing your dignity, without having to humiliate yourself. Work on your self-esteem. You owe yourself love, affection and respect.

It is worth improving your self-esteem if in your self-evaluation you have realized that it is necessary to make changes for healthy esteem for the benefit of your person, that will bring you emotional stability, strength to accept changes, motivation to new goals, improve relationships with other people, will make you be more assertive, respect yourself, improve your physical care and your mood.
So upbeat, work on your healthy self-esteem as a short-term goal for this coming year. December makes us reflect and plan our personal well-being.

I love December!

I look forward to your comments...Next year do you plan to make changes in yourself?...Will you invest in yourself?

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