Can you Parents change your familiar environment in a transition of divorce? It's up to you! change!
The chameleon is a reptile with internal cells called chromatophores that allow it to make chromatic (color) changes in its skin and thus adapt to external variations in the environment. This metaphor introduces us to today's topic about the changes in parents’ lives, after a marital breakup. These are personal decisions, and it's all up to you.
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The covid-19 pandemic at the beginning of last year prompted us to experience disruption in society, globally. Now more than ever the world is in constant turmoil and so are each of us in our homes. We have to align ourselves with these transformations, whether good or bad, and the best way is to face them while we have life.
Let's imagine for a moment that you, my friend reader, are going through a breakup in your marriage and that from that relationship with your partner you have children. There is nothing more triggering to alter the emotions and feelings of abandonment in children than to hear from one of their parents the words "I'm leaving home".
Some parents try at all costs to avoid the transition that divorce produces, some of them resist the loss, they are rigid in accepting the circumstances of a new beginning, they can even live life in constant unhappiness submerged in an internal feeling of guilt, sadness, depression, loneliness, anger, rage. And they drag with these feelings to their children without realizing that the conflict situation also affects them. The changes after a marital separation never stop, they are always in motion and are inescapable.
Living at home during the time of the epidemic has increased the conflicts in marital and parental relationships. For a long time, everybody is living under the same roof without being able to go out. It is emotionally complicated to face the situation, it is sad that one of the parents abandons the home or only one remains isolated at home with their children for fear or prevention of contagion by covid. Remaining also in a certain way "isolated" in our internal reality, in a world of strong emotions. Resisting to give up patterns or habits that can harm children's mental health.
So it's all up to you (parents going through a divorce) Change!.... For the emotional well-being of the children!... Propose new activities in your life to start the transition in positive, make that push for the mental and emotional good of all, experience new things so that every day you live more and more fully and in harmony, even in times of pandemic ... May the children understand with the language of love that above all circumstances they are still loved in the same way.
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You, parents, must remember that first, the change is internal. We cannot pretend to change our environment if we do not begin with the transformation of our mind, it is difficult but not impossible, propose to start a short plan of daily routines where you can do activities that make spiritually flourish the wonderful person you are ... do it, open yourself to change!... yes you can!.
I hope my friend reader that today's topic will be of positive reflection and I invite you to join me in reading the next article entitled "The messenger son". I look forward to your comments. See you soon.
It is true that with the pandemic and confinement, individuals or groups of families with problems increased their level of difficulties in living together. It is all due to poor or lack of communication. Children are the first to be affected by adult disagreements.