Seven Arguments Against Always Demonstrating Your Self to Others

You have the necessary qualities of goodness, intelligence, fineness, and strength. You are already VALUABLE; you don't need anyone else to confirm this.

In an effort to win everyone's approval and acceptance, we occasionally try to portray ourselves as perfect. But we can't please everyone, and we shouldn't try. Our sensitivity, our nuanced emotions, and our genuine flaws are what make us beautiful. Real relationships, real pleasure, and real success are all possible when we decide to be authentic rather than what we believe others want us to be.

No need to act a certain way. There is no need to act different from who you are. You don't need to convince anyone else of anything since...

1. The folks you should try to impress only want you to be genuine.

Long-term, it is preferable to be despised for who you are than to be loved for who you are not. In actuality, partnerships that improve you without transforming you into someone else or stopping you from evolving beyond the person you were before are the only ones that last over time.

Ignore the expectations and comparisons that are pounding on your door. You should only strive to improve upon the person you were yesterday. Show yourself to yourself first, then to others. The RIGHT people for you will admire everything about you that the WRONG people find intimidating and they will love you for it. Bottom line: Be patient, keep being your beautiful self, and eventually the RIGHT people will adore the REAL you. Don't change so that people would like you.

2. Only YOU actually understand what is best for YOU.

Avoid becoming consumed by the need to be liked by others. Confidently follow your route and don't expect others to comprehend it, especially if they haven't been exactly where you are going. Since no one else is walking in your shoes, you must take the actions that are correct for you.

Let people accept you for who you are, or don't. Even if your voice trembles, speak your truth. You create something spectacular into the world by being genuine to yourself that wasn't there before. When you follow your own path with passion and strength—when you aren't sidetracked by other people's opinions—you are gorgeous. When you learn from your failures and gain confidence from personal experience — when you are confident that you can fail, get back up, and keep going without anybody else's approval — you become powerful.

3. Only YOU have the power to alter YOUR life.

The one constant in any circumstance you have ever encountered, whether favourable or unfavourable, is you. No matter what has happened in your life thus far, it is your obligation and yours alone to understand that you have the power to change your circumstances or the way you view them. Don't let other people's viewpoints get in the way of this dominant fact.

What you can accomplish is independent of what other people believe is achievable for you. What you decide to do with your time and energy will determine what you are capable of. Therefore, let go of concern for what others may think. Just keep being true to yourself. Only those who want you to live a lie would criticise you for doing this.

4. The societal measurement of value based on possessions is useless.

Always choose the path that makes you feel alive when you are torn between what motivates you and what society tells you is best for you - unless you want everyone to be happy except for you. No matter where life takes you—whether it's to major cities or tiny towns—you'll inevitably run into individuals who believe they know what's best for you, who believe they're superior to you, who believe that everyone's definition of happiness, success, and beauty is the same.

They'll try to define your value in terms of what you possess rather than who you are. You are wiser than that, though; worldly possessions are unimportant. Avoid chasing after money. Get back on track with the concepts and endeavours that give you life. Choose the items that are more valuable and impossible to purchase. Possessing moral fortitude, an open heart, and a feeling of self-worth are crucial. Never sell any of these things if you're fortunate enough to have any of them. Never undersell your abilities.

5. You have nothing to prove; life is not a competition.

The goal is for everyone to ascend the mountain first so they may shout, "Look at me! Observe me! The reality is that you experience all of your happiness and growth while rising, not while you're sitting at the summit. Pay attention to each step and enjoy the journey. Avoid rushing through life and missing it. Forget how people are positioned in respect to you. It is not a competition. You don't get there all at once; you get there gradually.

You'll be able to do what matters most to you if you let go of the silly need to impress everyone else. You occasionally need to remind yourself that you don't have to act and behave in the same way that everyone else does.

6. Failure is the gateway to all great things.

You are a work-in-progress that constantly changes. You just need to stop worrying so much about being incorrect. You don't have to constantly be right. Making mistakes is inevitable. Sometimes the only way to move forward is to appear foolish. You will impede your growth if you make an excessive effort to impress everyone else with your "perfection." You won't be able to live the way you want to because you'll be too busy trying to appear a certain way.

There are moments when it's difficult to live without failing, unless you live so cautiously that you're not actually living at all—you're just surviving. You cannot possibly take the necessary steps to achieve success in your own eyes if you are too terrified of failing in front of others. It's important to keep in mind that as long as you keep moving forward with baby steps, it doesn't matter how many times you fail but rather how messy your trip is. The people that succeed in their endeavours are those who don't care that failure is a given. One of them can even be YOU.

7. In any case, it's difficult to satisfy everyone.

Some people won't hesitate to criticise you for what you did incorrectly but will always point out your mistakes. Don't join them and don't tolerate them.

When someone treats you harshly, discredits you, and shows disdain for you for no apparent reason at all, don't let trying to influence them or win their approval consume you. Additionally, be sure there is no room for hatred towards them in your heart. Simply walk away from them and let karma deal with what they say and do because any time you spend with them will be wasted, and whatever hate and resentment you feel in your heart will only bring harm.

You don't need a million dollars, a bestseller, a standing ovation, or any of those things. Now, you are sufficient. Nothing needs to be proven by you. Consider who you are to yourself more than who you are to others. The moment you stop looking to others for the validation that only YOU can give yourself, you will experience fewer heartbreaks and disappointments.

The ground is yours...
What problems has your desire to be liked by others caused in your life? What have you been unable to accomplish or be because of it? How do you handle it? Post a comment below and let us know your thoughts.