If it's out of our hands...

Monday!

Never liked it and on top of that today it started with bad news.

One of my close friends lost had a miscarriage this morning. What could be worse than this? She is physically fine, she got another four years old daughter. But what is lost will never come back.

I'm not good at condolence words, I find it difficult to comfort someone during a tough time with words. As she is living in another city it's not possible for me to visit. I only could say sorry, I wish I could do more.

After hearing this, as a mom; my mind is not staying mindful anymore. I'm not feeling comfortable. Is it possible to let go of something from our minds completely?

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If it's out of our hands, it deserves freedom from our minds too.

Simple words but difficult to follow!

Is this possible to let things go?

Grief is always difficult for me. Though my friend is mentally quite sound. But I'm not sure how she will handle the grief.

Acceptance helps a lot to heal, to settle down, and choose what is best for us. Allowing the negative emotions to flow is the second best thing. It's okay to feel bad, it's okay to cry. But be gentle to yourself. Don't hurt yourself in the process of healing. If it's not in our hands, we can do nothing but wait. We only can do what is in our hands like happiness. It's our choice to not let one incident break our life. We can choose to still be happy with other things in life.

It may never go from our minds but we can find peace.

Pain comes in so many forms. We do face something we never thought we will, we never know how it would be. And a thing like miscarriage, no one usually talks about it, we find no one to talk about our grief and all. I will try my best to support my friend mentally. But I know it's a battle of her own, she needs to take good care of herself to overcome this.

Mindfulness always helps. But the truth is, we are not always in the position to get help from it. I also sometimes procrastinate things, and compromise with many things hence I know mindfulness will help me. But I have to approve that's not a good thing to do with you. Better accepting the fact and settling down with the emotions is the best thing.

Let it go.