@re-joyce 18 December 2024 more from that month

Sometimes “moving on” is the last thing we want. ⁣ Grief is a complex space to be in.⁣ ⁣ Sometimes moving on feels like betrayal; ⁣ Betrayal to all the love we held for someone who is no longer here. Betrayal to all the love that is STILL here, in our heart, with nowhere to go. ⁣ For those who have loved and lost, hearing the words “move on” can be triggering. It’s like hearing an insult and our immediate reaction may be tinged with anger. It’s just that we’ve already lost someone’s physical presence in our lives that the thought of losing also their memory can feel unjust & overwhelming. Especially when their memory may be the last thing we ever get to hold from them.⁣ There’s an old Mexican proverb that says there’s not one but three deaths:⁣ The first is when you first realize you are mortal & will one day die.⁣ The second is when you actually die & cease to exist in your tidy physical form. ⁣ And the third and final death—and perhaps the most heartbreaking—is the last time someone says your name. The last time that you are remembered. ⁣ ⁣ From that lens, not wanting to move on is a response to not wanting to fully let someone go.⁣ ⁣ But here’s a secret that took me some time after my mother’s passing to finally understand: ⁣ It’s not about moving *on*, it's about moving *forward*. It's not about forgetting someone; it's about remembering them wholly—not just through the lens of their absence, but also through the enduring love they ignited within you. I’m holding space in my "From Grief to Grace" workshop for those ready to transform loss into a pathway forward. Together, we’ll explore the complexities of grief, learn to honor love, and find ways to carry it into the world. The early-bird window just opened - comment GRACE and I’ll message you the details 🤍 Remember: all that love with nowhere to go is only waiting for you to give it direction.