Man is a social creature. It is natural for a person to want to be surrounded by individuals with whom he can share his memories and experiences. However, not everyone you meet will be genuine; there will always be false individuals in your life who act strangely, and the best thing you can do is avoid them.
If you can stay away from negativity and phoney individuals, your life will be much better. The more positive, honest people you have in your life, the more likely you are to achieve your objectives sooner. Here are tips to avoid fake persons to help you do so.
Keep your interactions with the fake person to a minimum.
You won't always be able to avoid encountering this type of person, so keep your conversations brief to prevent feeling embarrassed or annoyed by their activities. The less engagement you have with the false person, the less uncomfortable you will feel. Fake people are mainly looking for attention, which you don't want to offer them. To make someone feel good about themselves, you don't have to involve them. That, in fact, aggravates the situation. Validation implies that they are free to continue acting in that manner.
Do not lower yourself to their level.
You can't battle fakery in others by being fake yourself. Refrain from gossiping and making harsh or derogatory remarks in order to "get back" at a false person. Always keep in mind that by acting in this manner, you are becoming the person you claimed to despise or avoid.
Keep your personal troubles and secrets to yourself.
If you suspect one of your friends is acting phoney, it's best not to tell him or her your darkest secrets. You should go gently so that the person does not receive the impression that you are beginning to doubt him or her. This will allow you to progressively distance yourself from the person and assess your friendship.
You should mind your own business.
If that individual isn't talking with you and everything you've heard about them being a phoney is based on secondhand information, don't get involved. Concentrate solely on yourself and your work. Allow them to exist as long as it does not damage you.
Confront them.
If you can't stand what the false person is doing and it's affecting you on a deeper level, don't be afraid to confront and call attention to it. If they are constantly tolerated, this type of person will continue sucking the life out of you. They crave approval so much that pointing out their mistakes can even help them understand what they've been up to.
Make an effort to assist them.
If the person behaving fake is a close friend of yours, and you think you might be able to talk to them, politely inquire about what's going on and why they act the way they do, and offer to assist them work through some of the issues they've raised. Do not become enraged if they do not respond or decline your assistance. It's still their choice, and what matters is that you tried to make them aware of their acts and offered assistance in dealing with them. When that happens, the best thing to do is move on and let them do what they want.
Make new friends.
The world is just too huge to be surrounded by imposters. It may be frightening to form new friendships and relationships, but it is far preferable to being surrounded by people who only bring toxicity and negativity into your life. Keep your spirits up, and you'll soon forget about those fake people and make plenty of new acquaintances based on trust and admiration. This is a sure solution to your main concern of avoiding fraudulent persons.
Don't be swayed by their obnoxious manner.
Remember to retain your cool no matter how obnoxious and bothersome the person's behaviour becomes. No matter how irritating their acts are, do not let them bring out the worst in you. When you're in a scenario that's bothering you, it's better to end the conversation right away and take some time to relax. When confronted with a circumstance in which the fictitious person has said something rude and disrespectful, this should not be permitted. Fake individuals need to understand their boundaries when it comes to their behaviour, therefore don't be scared to confront them about it.
Always keep in mind that it isn't about you.
Fake people's acts have nothing to do with you and everything to do with them. Always remember that they are attempting to prove something to others, particularly themselves, and that if they do not receive the validation they require from others, they will most likely walk away. Avoid engaging in engaging interactions as much as possible, and remind yourself that they are only lying to themselves, not to you or others. While dealing with and interacting with people like this can be unpleasant, keep in mind that they are the ones who are actually suffering.
It's quite simple to be enticed to become something we're not in today's world, where being flawless or ideal is portrayed, especially on social media platforms. We should, however, resist conforming to societal norms and instead embrace who we are. “Remember that to be trusted is better than to be loved,” my journalism guru advised. If you come across this type of person, keep these guidelines in mind to avoid allowing poisonous and negative energy into your life.
