Am I Beautiful In the Eyes of Others? I am not

1 - I'm not pretty

I feel very sad when you talk about yourself in this way..not only because this way of thinking is harmful, but because the sentence “I am not as beautiful as the others” is nothing but a wrong and misleading judgment about yourself..

First, I will not tell you that beauty is the beauty of the soul.. and that you have to see yourself as beautiful, and to the last of these human development preambles, no.. this is not true.. we cannot describe ourselves as beauty and be satisfied with that.. because beauty is an impression.. it is an evaluation that comes from The beholder of the thing, not of the thing itself... But the question is... Who should give us this assessment? On what does his assessment depend?

2- How do I know that I am beautiful in the eyes of others?

I will answer you..There are three sides that evaluate our beauty as human beings..

The first are those people who hate us for one reason or another..and these people only depend on one element in their evaluation of us..the hatred in their souls towards us..Therefore, their task in evaluating us is very easy. ..there is not much to write in the paper..for them we are ugly, bloody and ugly..whatever we are,whatever we become and whatever we do..the evaluation is the same..because the element of evaluation is one..hate.

On the other hand, who evaluate our beauty are strangers... those who don't know anything about us... maybe they only saw our pictures on social media... and these, their only factor in evaluating is the extent to which our forms match the various preconceptions in their heads... This is what they see only And this is how they rule.. and for them you are no one.. your being as a human being does not concern them at all.. your name itself they do not know.. and whether you are a saint or a serial killer of children, alive or dead.. this matter does not concern them.. they will give their opinion of you even if you are dead By the way.. it does not matter.. your image is what matters.. and the extent to which this image matches what is stored in their brains..

As for the third side that evaluates us..they are those who love us and we love them..and they really see our measurements..and are not blind to it..and it is an important element in their evaluation..but unlike strangers, they care about us..and love our measurements and see them as really beautiful because they love us..they see us. Beautiful to our selves.. for the fact that we exist in their lives.. and in your case, these are me, your mother, your brothers, sisters, girlfriends, the poor man whom you will marry and have in the future, and your children who will come to life..

All of these people - that is, we - see you as beautiful because you are.. not even for your good manners.. your beauty in our eyes stems from your uniqueness as human beings.. from your being you, not someone else.. from the fact that there is no one like you.. and there will be no one like you. We don't compare you to anyone and we don't even want a better version of you.. we want you as you are.. this curly hair I love it the way it is because it's your hair.. and your eyes I love it because it's your eyes.. not because it's blue, red, green or teary as it is now.. I love it because it is your eyes..because it is mine..and your big, distorted toe I love it too..by disfiguring it..because it is mine..and this smile is mine..and the cheek that supplies me..and all of you are mine..this is how I value true beauty and this is how I define it..the joy that fills my heart when i see you..

3- Beauty is the beauty of the soul

The beauty of a person, my little girl, does not come from his measurements.. but from his uniqueness and the privacy of his soul.. magazines reject this definition of beauty.. they reject the right of all girls to be all beautiful.. although this is the logic and this is the truth.. but no. The magazines designate only seven or eight women to monopolize this false beauty crown..and millions of other women have to keep panting to become copies of themselves..

As for the eyes of lovers, they clearly understand the definition of beauty as being unique and unique.. That is why they are astonished by our beauty whenever they see it.. and no matter how long we and them age.. and no matter how long, short, wide or narrow those measurements are.. because the soul is one..

And this is really what matters to us in the end.. to be beautiful in the eyes of those we love.. to see that joy that shines in their eyes whenever they see us.. because that joy is what increased us in the journey of a lifetime, my little girl, and not the passing groans of strangers.. and when our hearts are reassured With it, everything else will go to hell.