Divorce, Major Causes, Effects of divorce on children
October 01, 2022, Saturday.
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Introduction and Explanation
Nature of wives
A woman sometimes gets digested by being happy and she starts abusing her house and husband and starts demanding a divorce every day.
If a husband is arrested in such a situation, I advise him that
Divorce is in your hands, which expiration date is written on the divorce when do you want to give it, what is it so quickly? If a person dies without treatment, the heart feels sad that the treatment is not done, maybe it would have been saved.
You send her to her parent’s house for three months. She is still thinking about the price of her shares before marriage.
If it is not correct after this, then send a divorce there.
The method of divorce in Islam is that first a divorce should be given. Then have patience for some time. If you want to return, then return. Even if divorce is inevitable, one should be given. Then take a break for some time if possible. If it is, it should be done or divorced Praise be to Allah. Islam has taught us the best way for everything.
Islam also says the same
If your wife doesn't understand, then stop sleeping with her first. Even if you don't understand, send her to their parents’ home. Even if you don't understand, then the last thing is to divorce her.
Divorce Causing Factors, Certain Major Causes of Divorce
1-Lack of commitment (in between yes and no) is the most reportedly cause of divorce, commitment is a major root of having a relationship strong and safe, if one of the couples is in anger the other should be soft-hearted at this time. They should both try to understand each other. If this quality exists in both persons no one can break this relationship ever.
2-Lack 0f Communication. Is another cause of increasing distances between husband and wife, in many modern countries men and women both do works and jobs to earn as compared to backward countries?
When both the members of a house are doing a job and they work all day and come back home in the evening, they both do not have time for each other but when they are back home they are tired and sleep early in the night and this regard lack of communication aroused. Sharing of thoughts gets stuck.
This thing produces distances and decreases love between them. The time comes they have a high wall of misunderstanding between them they never imagined before,
But now they both are helpless and arrested by their ego, so try to give time to each other.
To make a difference in the long-term outcomes for children, it helps to develop positive ways of communicating, solving problems, and reducing conflicts.
3-Sexual Issues are the most common issues on days when a man is unable to satisfy his wife then conflicts get started. Some of the women try outside to fulfill their sexual needs this reason is the worst of all they could not have any aspect to save the relationship.
4-Financial Issues play an essential role to change a good relationship into a worse and the end is divorce. Almost everyone wants a luxurious life she wants money to get her standard and status high, and wants to show off to others. This thing also is a part of the conflict in couples when a man can’t fulfill his wife’s needs.
5-Emotional and Physical Abuse is a factor usually present in backward countries and backward areas are usually done by a husband, the question is why does a husband do this?? The answer to this question is the husband could be illiterate or he could be a psychopath, any woman can never bear a person who abuses her every time. So the result is divorce.
6-Addiction and Alcoholism issues Taking drugs or being a drug edict snatches all the natural feelings, a positive part of human beings, and lessens the interest of a man in his home. He gives no importance to his family and runs away from all of its responsibilities. Causes divorce in the end. A woman wants a complete interest in his man. She can never compromise on it. '
Nature of Men
Women can bear everything. She can even compromise on everything from food to dressing included everything. But! She can’t compromise in sharing his men with any other woman.
And in my personal experience I have seen some incidents near me where men are Characterless despite having a beautiful wife, they go outside, spend nights with other girls, chat with them, and continuously cheat their woman, that is the main defect in the nature a man that a woman can never compromise.
And here she is helpless and demands a divorce. From my point of view, she is right in this regard.
Effects of Divorce on their Children
The most important part of the article.
Positive and negative effects of divorce on Children
I will elaborate on some major effects of divorce on children in the form of points.
Children of divorced couples lose their childhood at an early age compared to the children of normal people.
They are far away from natural life like other children.
They hear much bad talking about their parents in school life.
Children want the involvement of both parents in their life when they miss one of them they get depression in their minds every time. And always curse their fate.
Divorce affects children differently according to their age.
During the divorce of their parent-children experience a series of stages of grief and loss.
Different phrases uttered by many persons whose parents get divorced children early age
Children would be different persons if their parents are not divorced.
Life would be different if parents are together.
I would be a different person if dad remain more in my life.
I worry when both parents are at events (graduation).
I feel doomed to repeat my parent’s problems.
Sometimes I wonder if even if my dad loves me.
My childhood was cut short.
My parents’ divorce still causes trouble for me.
I missed not having dad around.
I had a harder childhood than most.
The psychological effects of divorce on a Childs Behavior.
Abandonment
Denial
Anger
Depression
Focus on reconciliation
Blame
Divides loyalties
Regression
Tests Of Loyalty
Effects of Divorce by Age
There are different effects of divorce on different children of different ages which are explained under.
Age (2 to 5)
Theme (Abandonment).
Symptoms (Sleep, Disturbances).
What To Do (Explain Custodian Parent will return).
Age (5 to 9)
Theme (Displaced, grief).
Symptoms (School Difficulties).
What To Do (Discuss fear, Contact with non-custodial parent).
Age (9 to 12)
Theme (Acting out).
Symptoms (Spying, Fighting with parents).
What To Do (Patience, Love).
Age (13+)
Theme (Relationship Failure).
Symptoms (Independence, promiscuous).
What To Do (Communication, Encourage relationship).
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