Since this pandemic start, we tend to stay at home more and interact with our families. If you have excellent parents, siblings, that's really nice. But sometimes one difficult family member ruins your life.
Since I have some problematic siblings, I made some research about it. And now, I made a shortlist and I want to share what I found out! Let's get started.
Be present and direct
Someone trying to stir up conflict can easily set you off. Be direct and assertive. If a talk becomes about "winning", end it. If you do that you can avoid unnecessary stress and anger.
Encourage them to express themselves
Let them fully state their point of view without interruption. Stay as neutral as possible. It also gives time to think, lowers tension.
Watch for trigger topics
Be prepared to address them in a non-confrontational way and to change the topic if necessary. Don't create a warzone!
It's not about you (usually)
Arguments can easily expand to personal attacks. Try to imagine it unfolding before it actually does- and nip it in the bud.
Your well-being comes first
Plan ahead and avoid getting stuck alone with them. No one is entitled to occupy your space unless you let them in.
Don't try to fix them
Unless you see what they're making an effort to listen and meet you halfway, temper your expectations for change.
I guess you get the idea.
When you have no option but to be around a person who regularly offends you, making some thoughtful adjustments in your style of dealing with others will help to decrease these situations.
I want to know what others doing to deal with difficult family members. Maybe some of you have great ideas about it. Comment below!