1. Do not love to rush, slowly learn new is the premise for a long-term love.
I'm a type of instant noodle lover, the kind that boils down quickly and cools down quickly. Hurry into each other but do not know each other, love each other like a storm but do not prepare umbrellas for the time of need. So there is not enough basis to go together for a long time and finally break up.
But I had an affair with only one person from the old for a long time, we learned nearly a year to shyly determine a relationship, the result of getting to know a lover like instant noodles like me. 2 years. For you 2 years it is not long but for me it is different, it is quite long compared to me. Because I am a person who easily loses interest, and also a quick warmth and cold is also quick, so getting to know someone for more than 2 years is quite a long time. And we understand enough how to be kind to each other, how to keep the relationship longer. Having a breakup is not because of the triviality of the easily dissolving story.
So don't love too quickly, don't love too quickly, get to know each other first without wasting time.
2. Need a solid emotional mindset
That is how?
That is, not relying on the thoughts of young people right now, such as: The opponent must be able to yield to you, must be able to love you.
Not at all.
A solid emotional thought is understanding, sharing, sympathy, tolerance and love. If the two sides have problems with each other, it is not the use of silence, but a quick resolution that does not last. Do not get mad at the chores for too long just to make the price. Do not love yourself too much, but forget that the other person also has their own thoughts. Also, do not be too disturbed to cause both fatigue.
A clear, coherent, and mature emotional mindset, far better than the standards measured from selfish emotions.
3. Someone who has a personality like you, thinking like you is definitely only suitable to become good friends, someone who is different from you but understands you is the right person to be a lover.
Character like you, thinking like you, one can only be respectful as new, nothing new special. For you the most is the same in terms of thought. Second, if you have the same thoughts and actions in your love story, for example, you don't want to give in, you don't expect the other person to give in first to make the relationship no longer cool. It is like a mirror that reflects all your bad habits, you can tolerate your own bad habits, but you cannot tolerate that bad habits you put on the other person.
But a different person who wants to understand you is different. They try to get to know you, try to penetrate into your life, try to uncover everything about you. They themselves are different from you, creating new things for you to discover about them, understand them better, to be exposed to more aspects of their thinking, is a new heaven. Nor will it act like a clone of yourself but have a workaround for each situation. Because you want to understand, you should try. Because it is different from you, you will try to integrate with you.
4. Find someone who thinks mature, correct and understands a bit
Let them help you handle a few things, give you some advice, know your psychology and your face, also know what to do best for both sides in difficult situations.
Nor will it be because of small things that grumble to you, but understanding the nature of that action, why this and that begins to give both sides a legitimate explanation.
Do everything neatly, gently, handle it wisely and understand the story, not messy. Too much attention to details and details makes both parties unhappy.
5. Find a decent person
This is very important because most now I find the taste of humanity is very unique. I really like to look up for men and women to bad boys, bad girls, etc. I used to like only gentle and traditional people, or being unreasonable but not weird. The best is the righteous, unrighteous triangles.
Finding a decent person to help you become more aware of the world around you is the first thing, second is understanding the person's way of life, good and bad habits they are all helping you to correct. Keeping you from doing something bad for yourself, improving your life, improving your quality of life.
They may not be as attractive and personal as others, but if you take the time to interact with them, you will realize that they have many other lovely and interesting things that are more attractive than the others out there.