Let us not be afraid to love and be loved

We are surrounded by cowards. Those who are afraid of being loved. Those who turn themselves into a little ball bug and roll downhill as soon as they see the slightest crumb of love. Those who judge what is in love.

Maybe we are all like that at some point.

We are afraid of love, afraid of being loved.

In places where we believe we are loved, maybe because we have been hurt so much at the hands of those who say they love us, we close ourselves off when we see love. Because our parents, our siblings, our friends, our lovers, who said they loved us very much, were the ones who lit the fires that caused the deepest pain in our hearts. First we got angry at the one who lit the fire, then we became enemies to the common point of those who lit that fire.

If you love, you burn!

Then love became something to be ashamed of, something to hide. Saying that you love someone, showing your love became something that required courage, when everything in life was built on it... Maybe that's why it was easy for us to reject the essence.

How can one who runs away from the raw material of existence embrace their existence?

Everyone is afraid of relationships, of being in relationships...

Because in the end there is pain, in the end there is dissociation!

Is that so?

Can a person be separated from the one he loves? Even if they separate in the material world, can they separate spiritually?

Man has tried to control love. Who to love, how much to love, for how long... He just thought, he thought he could control it. That's why he first separated himself, from what is, from what flows, from his beloved, perhaps from himself...

And love was a sledgehammer that came to humanity to break this control. From an irresistible, uncontrollable place, it tried to show existence what it controlled.

Who is the great one...

This was both frightening and easy, and people ran away from their feelings and sensations until they had to, without a collision.

It is precisely for this reason that certain definitions of love and ways of being loved have developed. How the woman, the man, the one in the relationship should behave, what is love, what is not, what is worthy, what is worthless, the criteria of the one to be related to...

Any kind of list that prevents seeing it as it is.

This is how we moved away from love, this is how we hid from emotions.

We continued our emotional life in the ghetto as little fugitives.

Those seeking love started to walk the same path as those who bought lottery tickets. Without faith in themselves, waiting for a power independent of themselves...

The moment we start categorizing emotions, the moment we declare that we will accept them where and how much they should be, we are actually shouting in the background, "I don't want them!"

Let's not look for it...

Let us not deceive ourselves, let us not think that those of us who avoid living our feelings will be in a loving relationship. We cannot.

Let's not think that as those who avoid saying or even feeling that circumstances make us feel shame, ecstasy, love, jealousy, rivalry, sadness, as those who are afraid to admit them even to ourselves, who deny them, who reject them, that we will surrender ourselves to love. We will not even be able to parse love.

Because love will come with all those things we judge and reject. It is like a package on top of them.

A package in which you are forced to love yourself while loving the other.

Maybe this is our problem. The part of us that is not willing to love ourselves refuses to accept love. So in fact we are only rejecting ourselves.

As I said at the beginning, how can one who rejects the building block of existence embrace their own self-existence?

I am not going to say that you have to love yourself first, as someone who knows the difficulty of that. First you will stand up for your own feelings, honestly, with courage no matter what.

Then self-love will come naturally, spontaneously...

No matter how cowardly one is, on the subject of loving and being loved, let's not hide our feelings and emotions according to the other person's container. Everyone lives themselves in the end and the truth is what everyone lives individually. Personalized realities...