Love is a feeling you feel when you feel you are feeling a feeling like you have never felt before. It is a powerful force and the funny thing is, we can't control sometimes who we fall in love with.
Love is complex. A mix of emotions, behaviours, and beliefs associated with strong feelings of affection, protectiveness, warmth, and respect for another person.
What is love?
a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person.
What is lust?
have a strong sexual desire for someone.
From both definitions, you can see that one is emotional and the other is entirely physical. Lust just want you to explore the other person's body and get a feeling of satisfaction from it. Love is deeper and way more than that because you are involved with everything about the person; their fears, their dreams, their goals and everything that makes that person who he or she is.
Love is not just in words but in actions. You can give without really 'loving' but you cannot love without 'giving' and giving here is relative. You give your time, your energy, your resources and everything to make it work but never at the expense of what you stand for or who you are. I understand there are compromises sometimes to be made, there are sacrifices, of course, to be made but never at the detriment of your sanity or your soul.
I am a practical person and I always tell people to go into a relationship with both their heart and their heads because if you go with just your heart alone, you would be taken for granted and you might lose your self-will and if you go with just your head, you lose that extra bit of your emotions that can make your relationship work. Go with both and balance it.
As good and sweet as love is, it has its downside. A lot of people say 'Love is wicked' based on the heartbreak they have endured despite their years of sincerity. I beg to differ a little. Love is not wicked, people are.
Love is real. Love is pure. Love is kind. Love is sweet. If I give you a thousand naira and you choose to do something different with it, does that make me or the money bad? The problem lies on those who claim they love you but deep down they don't.
If I lie to you that I am Dangote by name but I am not, does that make the real Dangote a terrible person? Love is helpless when people use love to deceive others but it is left to us to know how to discern between love and lust.
...to be continued...
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Olawalium; (Love's chemical content, in human form). Take a dose today: doctor's order.
