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These are the amazing things I learned from Bro. Eli Soriano's teaching on the above-mentioned topic in addition to my own personal research as well.
As a Christian couple, it is important to start together or live together with your spouse. Give no room for the enemy. This brought to mind when the storm came to attack the boat the disciples were in and Jesus commanded the raging storm, "Peace, be still!".
Situations of life will try to affect or threaten your marriage but you need to stand firm and try to weather that storm. You have power as a believer.
As a couple, you need to accept the fact that you can never be perfect and that goes for your partner too. You are to advance the kingdom of God and not tear it down from within. Realizing you are not perfect either gives room for reconciliation. We are to love as Jesus has loved us. Yet in our imperfect state, Jesus died for us.
Arguments will come, misunderstanding will show up and they are normal but you should always stat together and let humility lead. Let your desire to keep your home together override your desire to be right. Let's consider this Bible passage, as shared by Bro. Eli Soriano.
1 Peter 3:7 (NIV)
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
You can't continually be in sin and pray for the grace of God to abound. You can't hold your spouse in your heart and expect prayers to be answered under that cloud of malice, hatred, bitterness and resentment. This is to show us that the Bible is detailed. It is to make us into better humans as against our natural human self. We are a new creature in Jesus and we are expected to act differently from how the world would act.
Matthew 5:23-24 (NIV)
“Therefore, if you are offering your gift at the altar and there remember that your brother or sister has something against you,
leave your gift there in front of the altar. First go and be reconciled to them; then come and offer your gift.
God loves reconciliation and as Jesus has reconciled us to God, we should always strive to be at peace with all men as the scripture rightly puts it. We can't avoid conflict sometimes but get to the point where you don't resent your spouse or get irritated when they talk or speak.
As a Christian husband, you are to deal with your wife with understanding. You need to understand that she is a weaker vessel - a vessel that needs protection. If the protector now turns into a tormentor then there would be no peace. She needs protection and correction with love anything she errs.
Ephesians 5:23-25 (NIV)
For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.
Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her
Each has a role to play. The submission of the wife is not because she is without values but to curb certain excesses, for instance, the case of finance. It takes the grace of God for some women to have more money than their husbands and not act proud. Submission doesn't mean you are to play the fool but to keep yourself in check as a wife.
Husbands should love their wives and give their lives for them. Your wife should be a priority not your friends and staying out late at night. Jesus gave Himself to us, as a husband, you should give yourself to your wife, not to others out there.
The husband was enjoined to love the wife as Christ loves the Church. Jesus didn't leave the Church. In fact, when He was ascending into Heaven, He told the disciples that He will not leave them comfortless.
Matthew 28:20 (NIV)
and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you always, to the very end of the age.”
There is a clear exception to these and it can be found in 1 Corinthians 7:15 (NIV)
But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.
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