Relationship 102.

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I'm sorry but some people don't deserve to be in a relationship, that's the bitter truth. As much as it pains me to admit it, they are not willing to show any commitment even when the reality is staring at them in the face.

I understand that most of the times, we are a product of the past we have been exposed to. We find it hard to move ahead because we are being careful not to be bitten twice but after you have scaled that height and found yourself someone loving and trusting, I think the least we can do for them is to make them feel appreciated with our commitment too.

You have a guy who would go out of his way for you, send you gifts without regards to time and yet you wouldn't even have the decency of showing more commitment? It would have been better if she didn't accept his proposal. This isn't even the case of she wasn't sure but a case where they are dating, they have good vibes going and she wants this too.

The major issue most people have as I have noticed with this particular lady is that she is too relaxed. She is enjoying everything the guy is offering and feel he doesn't need anything in return. She focuses too much on herself and would always turn the table when the guy needs a bit of attention. Ladies, I am sorry but not everything should be about you. That guy has feelings and emotions too.

We always want the guys to be strong but forgetting that they should be cared for too. It's when someone has been strong for too long with no show of care that you see them broken and lose it. We don't need to drive people up to that level before we appreciate them a little.

I am not a preacher of February 14th - Valentine per se because I believe giving and affectionate show of love shouldn't be limited to one day since most people now think it is, but if it is an opportunity for you to do something nice for the person you claimed to love, I don't think that should be a big deal. You can't be receiving it all and not at least make yourself valuable. If they asked you about your spouse, you can count the things he or she has done for you but what have you done for them? What can they point to? Just your body? If that is the only thing you are bringing into a relationship, you don't deserve love. You are just a female or a male. 

A relationship is about commitment and mutualism. You have to give as much as you are receiving. We are to make our spouse feel loved and appreciated with every window of opportunity that presents itself. That's being thoughtful. You have to plan ahead and not leave things to chances. Any human being, I repeat, any right-thinking human being would gravitate towards the place they are being appreciated rather than where they are being tolerated. We all have equal rights to love and attention while also being responsible and showing commitment. 

A relationship is not by force. If you are not ready or you have not healed from your past hurt, don't go near it. Let no man pressurize you into having a status in a relationship while being a mess inside it. You have to rediscover yourself first before you find anyone else. If you don't love yourself enough, how can anyone else love you the way you would have wanted? You deserve undiluted love and not pity just as the other person too. No one is doing you a favour by dating you. You both must have a common ground and know whether being together is worth fighting for.

Because you took a vow doesn't mean you know how to love and because you speak Latin doesn't mean you know how to speak. A relationship of any kind requires commitment and you have to learn how to give. Giving in this sense is relative. What are you bringing to the table other than your sexuality?

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