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Most of the times when we feel rejected or unloved, we seem to retreat or withdraw from other people’s loving hands. We feel we are inadequate. We fail to see those who really care about us and base our feelings on one person's opinion due to rejection. We feel incomplete. We feel the need to change what is not broken. We are not perfect, yes, but you are not as broken as you feel you are. Don’t judge your life based on the unacceptability of another imperfect human being. Feel good about yourself on the inside. Every good thing starts from the inside.
When a man is in love, and a lady rejects him, it shatters his ego. This is why sometimes they feel it is not appropriate for a lady to ask a man out. I don’t find it odd. I think this is because ladies are too emotional, so it shatters their sense of worth if the guy turns them down. This is a topic for another day.
When we love someone and we don’t get it back, we feel the need to start fixing what is not broken and starts filling our head with a load of questions about “Am I not good enough?” “Could it be because I don’t have money?” or “What was he or she expecting?” and we start going all out to impress someone who has given an honest response in the first place. We try to pressurize the person, so he or she can give in and when they eventually do, we wonder why it didn’t work out. The same thing applies to friendship. Don't guilt people into loving you. You deserve undiluted love and attention and you should give it too.
Rather than sell yourself short because you are looking for acceptance, rather be who you are and seek to evolve. The bottom line is, not everyone would like or love you. If everyone loves you, you need to be more careful even because maybe someone is giving a false value. Life is like that. The truth is, you don’t like or love everyone either and it is not because you have something against such a person.
Not everyone will like or love you, so stop living your life trying to impress people.
People’s negative thought about you shouldn’t determine how you live your life, especially when you know you have done nothing wrong and you have peace with it.
"There is no higher court than the court of conscience."
I know you beat yourself up because you felt you are not good enough. You feel you might never find another person who will tolerate you. Don't always feel everything is your fault. People sometimes want us to live at their mercy. They want to control how we feel and how we think. Like I always tell people around me, always do what you feel is best for you. If you make a mistake, learn from it, if you make headway, rejoice and trust your instincts more and aim higher, but living your life in sadness because someone didn't see your worth or showed patience with you, is a dangerous path to thread on.
When someone leaves, it is always a personal decision and you have to learn to accept things you cannot control. You can’t control how people feel about you, you can’t control what people think about you, even if you decided to do things with the best of intentions. Stop seeking for approvals. Don’t beat yourself up for it and don’t hate them also for it. Everyone would always want to do what’s best for them. Do what’s best for you, by feeling good about who you are.
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