The Art of Ghosting... Minus the Voodoo
There is nothing more twisted than when the alive does the work of those who have passed—metaphorically speaking. Not to sound innocent, because I, too, am guilty of ghosting my way out of things, it may be a class meeting, a conversation, and especially out of a few budding relationships. But, I would also bet that you also have done the ways of the supernatural maybe once or twice just to save yourself from doing the dirty work. But what really is ghosting? Why do we do it? And how come it has become a very usual, close to a normal thing today?
According to Wendy Rose Gould in her article titled What Is Ghosting? An Uptick Has Occurred in Online Dating, ghosting is a recent colloquial term which is used to refer to the act of cutting cords with people and situations in a very abrupt manner without any words thrown and given. Which basically tells us so much just by the term of it. Ghosting is literally burning bridges in a blink of an eye; an another kind of goodbye minus the courtesy, the waving, and looking back. And the specific variety of ending that happens without any warning given.
And despite how ugly and hurtful the whole process of ghosting appears to be, we cannot deny that it has become so rampant that it is close to becoming a normal way of bailing out oneself out of social affairs and relationships. It has also come to a point where most people expect others to eventually fall into the spiral of such act later on their relationship which has lead to numerous batches of conflicts and arguments for many.
I personally even have witnessed countless of friends who were ghosted and I have also seen numerous other great people who even did the ghosting themselves. It is a really tricky and complex concept of people pulling and pushing each other, because even I, who hates those who leave without any warning raised, have ghosted a couple of persons just to save myself from discomfort.
But the discomfort and uncomfortable situations and conversations are the key to a person's growth and prosperity. And ghosting hinders such opportunity for us to become vulnerable and honest to ourselves and other people. Ghosting ties us into the past and keeps our hands full with questions of why's and what could have been's. It anchors us and keeps us stuck into old memories and even imagined ideas.
I believe people who resort to ghosting as a call to ending connections have difficulties in expressing themselves and their emotions. They see the process so challenging that they forget that the person they are dealing with is a human being who deserves enough decency and respect to receive a reason as to why the relationship shall end here and then. And oftentimes, people who get ghosted never see things that way. They think that the fault blossoms from them and whatever they have done towards the person which is a very cruel remembrance someone can ever leave a person with.
Nevertheless the kind of brand ghosting has had over the course of time, it will always inflict people pain. No matter the number of jokes and memes people make about it, it can bleed and struck someone with scars that could last for lifetimes. Ghosting should never be celebrated.
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