Observe yourself in moments of solitude

If you find it difficult to get up on time, work in a planned way, or exercise regularly when you are alone; if you postpone your responsibilities with passive leisure activities such as watching television and feel restless afterwards, you may be struggling with an emotional sense of loneliness and feel uncomfortable when you are alone. On the contrary, if you feel more productive and creative when you are alone, if you can act in a more planned manner, if you feel more energized and happy, and if you enjoy these moments, being alone may be good for you.

In order to be able to satisfy your need to be alone without feeling lonely, you need to realize what your emotional, physical and social needs are and how much of these needs you can meet on your own when you are alone. When you become aware of your feelings and review your thought patterns that put you in a spiral of despair, you can enjoy being alone without experiencing the feeling of loneliness.

Meditation is one of the best ways to get to know yourself and deepen your relationship with yourself by developing your sense of self-awareness when you are alone. Meditation helps us practice the skills of non-judgment and compassion, while learning how to be alone with our thoughts and feelings at a mindful level of awareness. As you can imagine, developing self-awareness takes a lot of practice. Meditation will be your biggest supporter in getting rid of distractions and feelings of loneliness and establishing a compassionate connection with yourself.

When you are alone, analyze what you read, what you watch, how much time you spend on social media, what you eat and drink, in short, how you spend your alone time. Everything you consciously or unconsciously consume will affect your emotional experiences and thought processes when you are alone. To avoid triggering your feelings of loneliness, you can watch movies that make you feel good, limit the time you spend reading news and social media, eat healthy by cooking at home, and make regular exercise your routine. 

It is an obvious fact that social media is where most of us spend most of our time when we are alone. Spending too much time on social media platforms such as Facebook, Twitter and Instagram for socializing can cause us to develop the habit of comparing our lives with others'. Use social media not just to see what's going on in other people's lives or to keep up with the news, but to be inspired, to strengthen your social relationships, to express yourself, and to freely express your weaknesses and flaws as well as your strengths.

Time alone is a great opportunity to do the things you love. When your plans are canceled, when you can't find anyone to see, or when you just don't want to leave the house and want to have a good time, you can write down the activities you can do in a notebook as you think of them and make time for them whenever you can.

If a plan with a friend has been canceled and you feel lonely, you should try to find out what triggered your sadness. Maybe you are upset about something negative and need support, or maybe you are afraid of being alone at home, or of the dark, or of something else, and you are trying to suppress your fear by having fun, distracting yourself, having superficial conversations. Finding out what triggers your negative emotions will also help you understand what activities you can do to feel better.

You are the only person who will be in your life for the longest time. Therefore, having a healthy relationship with yourself and creating quality time alone with yourself is a much higher priority than how you can strengthen your communication with others, deepen your relationship with your friends or improve your social skills.

Time alone is a great opportunity to connect with yourself in a meaningful way, to enhance your creativity, to increase your productivity, to regain the energy needed to build healthy social relationships, and to discover ways to physically enjoy being alone. How you take advantage of this opportunity is up to you.