We beautify our lives as we share

We postpone life believing that we always need reasons and people to be happy. We blame circumstances and people because it is difficult to take responsibility, because that is what the conformist and egoist in our heads wants. It is much more comfortable to hunt for criminals and get rid of responsibility.

Happiness is born out of pain, not happiness. The value of standing in the shade is realized only after walking around in the hot sun all day.

The truth is that life is a table that we cannot define unless we taste what it offers us. One cannot recognize oneself when one is happy. It is in the face of unhappiness that you realize your true strength.

We are all social beings and loneliness is something that makes us sad. As we share, we add color to our lives and beautify our lives. Loneliness and solitude are two different things, in fact it is not loneliness that makes us sad.

The most important people in our lives are the ones we connect with. Our family, our children, our spouse, our lover, our friends, but I realized that we have indebted the people we have bonded with, instead of hugging them tightly, we have often unknowingly indebted them. I think this is the first obstacle to our happiness. Unfortunately, in indebted relationships, the parties live as creditors and all creditors become unhappy and die unhappy.

Unhappy people are always creditors from those around them, from the world. They have given so much, now it is time to take! If you feel indebted to life, it means you are standing somewhere where you need to stop and think, maybe restructure.

How can a person give away even the right to be happy? If you cannot make yourself happy, who can make you happy? What a ridiculous expectation, what an irony! The most common confusion is that we mistake temporary pleasures for happiness. You have to differentiate between pleasure and happiness, I'm talking about happiness here, not hedonism. They are two very intertwined concepts, but they are actually very different. Hedonism and happiness. The pursuit of pleasure unfortunately tangents happiness, without even realizing it.

The region of the brain responsible for emotions, the limbic system, is focused on the temporary pleasure it will feel as a result of instant possession. Life has no other agenda until you get it. And when you have it? Is exaggerated high octave joy happiness? No, this pleasure-centered happiness is temporary. In this form of happiness, desires are greater than needs. How much less would be lost if we could realize that in our search for something better, we miss the opportunity to do good with what we have.

Every novelty drops like a bomb on your relationship with what you have and the happiness you seek disappears. We feel broken. We lose meaning while seeking pleasure. No pleasure without meaning is permanent. It is your guest.

Your brain consumes things that have no meaning and wants a new one.  Always chasing the new at the expense of happiness is exhausting. This is the biggest danger of hedonism. You think it's real, you think, okay, this is it, but one morning you wake up empty and you can't even find a reason to get out of bed.

The more you pursue happiness and the more you run away from unhappiness, the deeper the problem becomes and the more vicious the cycle becomes. Happiness is not something you seek, but something that arises spontaneously as a result of your choices.

Realize this. Be aware of what you have, what you have at hand. Happiness is realization. Be aware of yourself, perhaps one of the most important things that this pandemic process has taught us is that happiness increases as we share it, while troubles and worries decrease.

So take care, take care of your loved ones, take care of your happiness, don't be afraid to take responsibility.