Do You Have a Child Who Has Behavioral Issues? Here Are 6 Ways to Improve Your Management Skills.

When you think of challenging behaviors in children, you probably think of a toddler throwing a tantrum. However, challenging behaviors aren't limited to toddlers. In fact, many children with autism spectrum disorder, as well as teenagers, struggle to manage their emotions and feelings, which can lead to these negative behaviors. What, then, can be done to keep these behaviors under control?

Brittany Schwanke, a behavior analyst for Henry Ford Health, advises parents who are asking themselves this question that these behaviors stem from their child's learning history.

"When a child is young, he or she will frequently throw a tantrum to get what they want, and if you give them what they want, that becomes a learned behavior," Schwanke says. "They understand that their behavior gets them what they want, so they keep doing it." These behaviors may become more difficult to manage as your child grows older and this pattern continues."

Learning to Manage Difficult Behaviors

Schwanke offers some advice on how to manage behaviors so that you can avoid them in the future:

1. Determine why your child is engaging in this behavior.

Tantrums and outbursts are frequently the culmination of a larger problem. Consider what might have prompted your child to react in this manner. Remember that each child is unique, and their triggers may vary depending on the situation. The following are some examples of situations that can lead to challenging behaviors:

.They are unable to communicate their desires.

.They want something they can't have.

.Uncomfortable feelings or a desire to avoid something

.A change in their routine

2. Establish a safe zone.

When your child exhibits difficult behavior, begin by clearing the area. If there are any potentially dangerous or breakable objects that your child could throw, keep them out of their reach. Also, ask others to leave the room to make your child feel more at ease (that includes other adults and siblings).

3. Use fewer words.

Giving your child a lecture or having multiple voices speak to them at the same time can be very overwhelming. Instead, use your words to help them relax and express why they are upset.

4. Provide a variety of options.

When your child desires something, a flat "no" can be extremely frustrating. Instead, provide them with options. For example, if rain prevents you from going to the park, perhaps painting or listening to music would be more enjoyable.

5. Make modifications.

As a parent, you have the power to influence how your child reacts in a given situation by addressing their specific needs. "For example, if your child becomes upset while shopping with you, try offering them headphones or a toy so they have something else to focus on," suggests Schwanke. "If you know they'll only last 15 minutes before they're exhausted, keep your trips short or go grocery shopping without them (if possible)."

6. Consult your pediatrician.

Inform your child's doctor about their behavior patterns and triggers. If your child has autism spectrum disorder, your doctor may refer you to applied behavioral assessment, or ABA therapy, to help you learn more about these behaviors. Other best practices that your doctor may recommend include:

.Make a schedule for your child that is consistent.

.Reward positive behavior and communication.

.Set expectations and boundaries for the types of behaviors that are acceptable and unacceptable.

"Your child will continue to engage in challenging behaviors as long as you continue to reward them," says Schwanke. "Early intervention is the best way to ensure that your child does not carry these behaviors into adulthood."