You don't have to please everyone persons

<<Stop looking for the approval of others, it only steals energy and valuable time that you could be investing in yourself>>

 Understanding, companionship, dedication, generosity and empathy are traits that we all have and in turn we give to others, it is normal because one of the objectives of life is that we do and promote good without looking at who , in our soul it is common that dedication dwells, that is to say that we have a quality of service towards others, it is a feeling that abounds even more when people do not have good times in their lives, it is something primitive even, always try to help and being an instrument that adds and not subtracts, it is also a feeling that leaves us more than something material, a gratification that fills the soul, one that pleases beyond the physical.

Although living helping, living showing love towards others through our actions, on various occasions and life circumstances can cost us dearly, because we can forget about ourselves, we start a path where love, generosity, empathy and service is the central axis, the unfortunate thing happens when we begin to govern our lives as others wish, when the healthy limits that we have established between our personal life and the rest of the world are blurred and the need arises even to direct our lives according to the commandments that others want to see in us, clearly the path begun culminates in total forgetfulness of us, of our goals and beliefs.

Helping others is a beautiful action of life to which if limits are not set or established, it can even lead us to have serious mental problems related to abandonment, emotional dependence and fears of rejection among them, working to help others is not In the same way that our life purpose becomes in that process in pleasing others, therefore preserving our mind, our health should be a priority, or rather our top priority should always be ourselves, because if we are healthy in all the senses of our life we ​​can give the best of ourselves to the world while if we are affected by some bump in the road we would only be working halfway or forced therefore evaluating our behavior and our ideals of life should be something that we must maximize and prioritize, especially being honest when doing it, since it depends on it to continue in a vicious circle that is only stalling us and finally sinking us get afloat and be able to row to shore.

To flow, to be able to get out of that enveloping and vicious circle that is to please others, it is necessary to accept first of all that we are facing a problem, because our greatest decision-making is based on how others would feel about it without even taking our will into consideration, that is, only acting to please those who are supposed to be important and indispensable in our lives, recognizing that we have this negative factor in our existence is easy, we can do it by asking ourselves questions that we must answer with total honesty In order to face our dilemma, some questions that can help you discern whether or not you suffer from this are the following; You must ask yourself, answer yourself with all sincerity and if you answer yes to all or most of them, you must understand and accept that you suffer from this life problem but you can get out of it with a lot of effort and dedication.

-Do I live to please others?!

-Are you more concerned about other people's feelings than your own?!

-Do you act alone and from the opinions of others?!

<< Demand a lot from yourself and expect little from others. This way you will save trouble.>>

Keeping our minds working for others and ignoring the problems and feelings that plague our lives can undoubtedly cause both mental and physical damage, because studies have indicated that this problem can seriously affect the weight of many people. Sometimes with excessive upswings and others with increased downswings, we must work on our minds and within ourselves because although we often ignore it, the mind, good mental health is automatically reflected on our exterior, so put into practice and add love own to our life is fundamental, when self-love manages our actions it does them from a point where it only seeks our well-being, because by being healthy with everything that surrounds us we can give the world the best of us, in turn it also learns to say no, I can't, this is not good for my health, doing it is a difficult process, it takes time to get used to using this word so short but with an infinite power, another aspect that you must start to take responsibility for is making decisions, but based on what you think is best for you, not what others tell you to do, finally learn to live with yourself, to be alone, to enjoy your solitude, learn that you are your best companion in life, that with you you can do all the things you do with others, that you are the only person who will always be with you, supporting you even in times of adversity.

Don't let your life go by and you only have the purpose of pleasing others, look for a better purpose and objective on which to focus so that you grow!

Thank you for reading!