It is better to fail with your own than to succeed with someone else's

<Behind every success there is a story linked to thousands of sacrifices and efforts, a whole process full of many curves but that persisted and resisted, that's why I achieved it>

Success is relative, success has thousands of faces, a face that we give it, which in turn we tint with our dreams or goals, which we raise as we grow, it is inevitable at times to lose focus along the way as it is inevitable to get lost in life, the incredible thing about these situations is that they are temporary, they come to us with the mission of teaching us, of filling us and propagating us with thousands of teachings, they are warnings that life puts in our way to teach us which paths to choose and what actions to take, it is clear that when we do not get anything good out of them, we do not accept the change that they bring, life will look for alternatives to make us understand that we must take other paths, that we must take turns, that nothing is forever but fortunately some things touch our path to make us understand that we are much, that we are worth too much, that we are worthy of much better things, experiences and people, therefore we must let go, let go to make room, so that everything real and true can come into our lives.

In short, success, as I explained before, has a different value for each person, it is impossible for it not to be full of changes and nuances, on the contrary, throughout life we ​​change our ideas, we even change the north of our course, it is something that it happens more times than people imagine, they are changes that fill us with fear, therefore we have to do things even with fear, because it is worse to live a life frustrated by living dreams that no longer have gasoline, always It will be better to bet on our new goals, goals that will undoubtedly fill us with more life, more gasoline to continue. There are many people who are afraid to change their beliefs and goals for fear of disappointing others, but they do not realize that by doing so, in this process they become their worst enemies, they go on to live a frustrated life.

<It's never too late...>

Success is a subject that must be dealt with very tactfully, because we all give it our own meaning, no one has the same short-term goals. medium and long term, they may look alike but they will never be the same in the same way that no one will ever walk or travel the same path of life as someone else, we are all irreverent, we are all framed beings because we are unique, magical in a few words, therefore We must first focus on getting to know each other, knowing what we are passionate about, what things we do that ignite our soul to such magnitudes that even working does not seem like such a thing, on the contrary it becomes the job of our dreams, the job that is not even work, For this reason, the point of doing something that we like and not because someone else wanted it that way is fundamental, fundamental for our happiness, for our health, but above all our mental health, because where we do not feel good, without a doubt we are not going to flourish, we are not going to flow, therefore we must act, do not stay handcuffed, in your hands you have the tools to change, it is never too late to start with something that generates happiness.

<Never be ashamed of failure, take advantage of them, learn and move on, improve and succeed>

Personally, I was a person who, since I was little, had instilled in me a negative perspective of failure, a perspective that only led me to perfectionism, therefore when I did something wrong or certain life situations did not turn out the way I wanted and I appreciated it without hesitation, I punished myself, it is very hard when you are your biggest critic, when you do not let go, when you do not have patience or understanding, it is very hard to deal with these aspects that, more than positive, undoubtedly sink, due to many aspects, one of them because you do not develop kindness towards yourself, because it makes that you become your greatest enemy, therefore it becomes a teaching that we carry into adulthood from a young age, but unfortunately it is not good, it is completely toxic, because it attacks what we must protect and care for the most, our mental health, this is is affected by insecurities, by recriminations, anxieties, even feelings that we never imagined having, feelings that even in multiple circumstances s we are incapable of suppressing from our lives that to do so take time such as envy and hatred, not only against others, but with us, for not accepting us. It is extremely necessary to pay attention to our actions, our words and thoughts, in them we can find clues to be able to dig and get to the bottom of the situation, because it is vital to remove all these beliefs that are dressed as positive and good but deep down they make us damage, we must remove it from our lives, but it takes time, it takes time to understand that we must only choose beliefs that help us grow, that give us peace.

<It is better to fail with your own than with someone else's>

A phrase that undoubtedly leaves a lot to analyze, not just think about it, is to go to the bottom of it, many things in life are not coincidence, if you are reading this article I invite you with all my heart and with total humility to think, if you are doing something that generates happiness that only fills you with gasoline, not that it ties you down, not that it steals your energy, if you are doing it for yourself, not to make others happy, answer yourself with total sincerity, do not lie to yourself , you would be playing with your own happiness and reality. I tell you that it is a phrase that I heard on a podcast, a podcast that I consume a lot lately, it is very nutritious, it fills you up and leaves you with many learnings and also gives you many doubts, doubts that revolve around our personal life, doubts that lead to answer things that we bury, things that we leave in the back of our minds out of fear, fear of disappointing many times but others, when the fear should be mainly of disappointing you, because the mission of coming to this world is rooted in coming to create happy moments, trying to do everything that makes us happy and fulfilled that in that same process we collaborate in the lives of others or that they put a grain of sand in ours does not mean that we have to do everything what others want and much less in reference to our lives, it is not about being selfish, it is not about ego, it goes much further, self-love, self-love allows us to differentiate that what many many see ecen called selfishness is about comprehensive well-being and mental health for us.

<80% theory>

Now, it is impossible for success to arrive overnight, it is something you work for, it does not take forever to arrive either, but sometimes we must be more flexible with ourselves and with what we do, that is why I recommend a theory that I also heard out there, it's called the 80% theory, it means that when you have something you want to do and there's still a little bit left to do, do it without fear, don't get carried away by perfectionism, that can be achieved over time, don't wait and much less let more time elapse, literally throw yourself, throw yourself and you will see that you can achieve everything, little by little, it is not necessary to always find complete perfection, for many it is already perfect that way.

Do not try to copy anyone, much less want to be like someone else, always cultivate your own being, in it you will undoubtedly find all the necessary tools to succeed because it is even better to fail with your own ideas and actions than following someone else's.

Remember you are successful to the extent that you believe it, never let yourself be carried away by what others think.

Thank you for reading!

See you another time!