Is attachment good or bad?

<A happy and healthy person is one who balances attachment and detachment so that their happiness is maximized>

Dear readers: Today there are many people who still do not find an answer to this question, people who are searching with the aim of creating a unique essence since clearly no one in this world is the same as anyone else, the magic of being human lies in the fact that each one is different, each one of us is a unique universe in particular, now well many do not manage to respond to themselves even if the attachment is not good or bad because there are many opinions that exist, many definitions, many philosophies, that make us not know how to distinguish well, or at times our minds are clouded, because deep down we know that answer. As I said, there are many even the contradictions of those philosophies, some say that attachment is healthy, others that not so much, but in the end only you can decide what your philosophy is, your life is about that, even finding your own truths, it is valid to be, act and think differently, do not let unhealthy comments distance you from your own essence, you must always stay true to yourself and your beliefs, which of course do not harm anyone, but many even in the XXI century are unaware the practice and meaning of a value as important as respect.

As I said before, there are many currents that have carried out studies or have expressed their perspective, definition by attachment, in particular two psychological ones stand out, which says that attachment is healthy, even more so when it is established from childhood since when these people grow up will generate more self-confidence, it will also serve as a guide, to know how to face any circumstance that life throws at you, such as goodbyes or knowing when it is time to get away from things that simply steal your peace, of course this happens specifically when a healthy attachment is built from childhood, because we all deserve and must develop bonds with our caregivers in a healthy way, that is to say that they have been aware of the way they behave towards us, in addition to always responding to our needs, but above all everything through a conscious upbringing therefore it will always help because since we were little we always seek to copy the behaviors According to our parents, because they are our maximum authority figure and therefore our first example to follow, developing in environments with secure attachment, brings us more benefits than disadvantages since we will always feel safe, both in the world we inhabit and in the people that inhabit it, we will always feel worthy of deserving, deserving love and affection that we and others can give us, so we will also feel safe with dependence and independence, because we will know how to set limits and understand to what extent each of these is favorable or not for us.

So there are also slightly religious or spiritual points of view, which basically say or they state that they believe that attachment is not healthy, that we as human beings should practice detachment instead of attachment by practicing compassion towards others as for ourselves, through acceptance using their tools such as meditation, of course this point of view does not mean that we should always be alone in the world, on the contrary they also practice pure and unconditional love only that they are against those desires that we cling to that bring us pure negativity such as restlessness, sadness and anxiety, it is a philosophy that seeks that people do not control and much less have expectations for something, or for people who are not possessive and much less that his happiness only has a cavity when he is with someone, if it is within each one of us, well, they are very different points of view, but despite being so, they are related more than you think or we can combine them both, although there are still many discrepancies between the two as mentioned above, today both are more united than ever because they are now handled in psychology as practical exercises meditation and so there are also spiritual guides who use many psychological studies to seek new conclusions on many aspects.

Personally, I think that we should believe in what represents us the most, we should not seek to be something that only turns off our essence, on the contrary, we should always look for answers in things that make us feel more alive, that light up our soul, that's how I am too faithful believer that it is not bad to miss something or someone, but if I am a believer that we must be aware to what extent that feeling is good for our health, as well as learn to let go when more than good it does the opposite, that we do not let Anxiety arrives and it blinds us, I am also a faithful believer that attachment is not bad as long as it is healthy, because ironically this is what will make us more independent and aware, it is also necessary that we seek to understand each other, seek our own philosophy Copying others is not healthy, trying to be someone you are not will only lead you down the path of insecurity, because just as we need ourselves In the same way we need to have people in our lives, in short, be connected with others, so if you want to combine two philosophies, do it, you are the one who has to impose, create and design your own beliefs and if that makes you happy, both emotional , spiritual means that even your health in general will be fine, because as we are inside we will reflect it outside.

P.S; Although many times attachment causes suffering, you have in your possession many tools that different philosophies give and if it is necessary to use and combine them so that you are healthy, do it, do what makes you happy and always ignites your soul.