failed love
From childhood we are implanted with the false idea that the love of our life is the first and that it is the only one, as in fairy tales, what they do not teach us is that sometimes, we have to be with several toads before we find the the right partner, the one who is willing to support us, to love us as we are, because many do not learn that people are as they are, that changing them at this point in life is like turning them off, it is taking the light off, it is even lowering a switch synonymous with hurting them, because we try to change something that makes that person special, trying to do it is hurting their mind, their self-esteem, when you truly love hurting is not an option in the least and much less unconscious because you will always try respect and love purely including the faults, the setbacks, the virtues and the not so nice things that people have, this does not mean that we should put up with things like infidelity or disrespect, because undoubtedly they are We are tolerant but that does not mean that we have a hair of fools, because when you grow up in environments where peace, love and harmony reign, where you see examples of love that without a doubt one of its flags is respect above all, that It is what you are looking for in your life, in terms of friendships and life as a couple.
Society often dictates guidelines that even these people are unable to follow or did not follow in their lives, but they are in charge of living the lives of others even more than their own, when others are living their lives as they please, doing what seems best to them and what makes them happier, in conclusion, people who understood everything, who look for what lights up their soul and leave aside what doesn't, what robs them of peace, calm, what in instead of turning them into loving beings, it is leading him down the path of hatred, it is something normal that can happen in all facets of life, in friends, family, acquaintances and even as a couple, but we must always be able to discern when things they become negative, when they are no longer giving for more, when instead of bringing happiness they bring the opposite, because absolutely everyone deserves a beautiful and peaceful life, this also includes a loving life, because many times we do not give ourselves the opportunity to It is something we want because we live for what they will say, because we think more about people than about ourselves, hopefully one day you will put aside those fears and dare to cross the line because beyond it there is only the path of happiness, but of the personal because we are not all happy with the same thing, just as we are all different, happiness changes depending on each person.
Understanding the above took me a long time and with it the false idea of being in love with someone who only loved me for a while and who foolishly thought that he was the love of my life for being the first person in my sentimental plane, for this reason it is necessary live open to any possibility that life puts us in front of, because without a doubt we do not all live the same stories and experiences, each one has something different to tell and therefore lives something different, that my experience was bad does not mean that the yours was or is the same, we all say and speak from our perspective of life, so if you feel identified with my words I just want to tell you that many times they are just things that happen to make us stronger, to give us experience and even for us to cultivate LOVE OWN because there are many who come into a relationship loving their boyfriend or girlfriend more than themselves, making themselves less, believing that they are very lucky nothing more and nothing less than because They gave them an opportunity, because they thought they didn't deserve that to happen to them, but let me get them out of their mistake, because absolutely all of us are deserving of LOVE and RESPECT, no one deserves to be treated less and much less with disrespect, always look for people who treat you well, that they respect your way of being, your way of seeing life, because in one way or another you are the one who determines how others treat you with what respect or not, one teaches them how they should treat us.
That is why the paramount thing in your life is always you, self-love, respect, without this there is nothing, so try to be a little selective, give yourself the time to get to know people thoroughly because you will share your life with that person, so it is essential to know if they not only connect on the sentimental and loving plane but in all. Just as you do not despair, try to make your life and your life the best story, do not get carried away by the restrictions imposed by society. Lastly, failed loves hurt incredibly, but even if you are going through that hard moment, you must understand that they do not last forever, they are processes of life, processes that come to teach us, so try to discover what yours is, so please do not close yourself off. Before the prospect of a new love in your life, not all are the same.
