Conquering oneself is a sign that we are on the path of self-love

<If you have the quality and capacity to love, do it with yourself first>

Many things teach us whether they are our parents or even life itself is responsible for giving us thousands of lessons silently, obviously it is up to us to learn or continue making mistakes until we reach the point where we automatically understand it because it is already impossible not to see and accept what happens, well I am a faithful believer that apart from loving everything that surrounds us we must do it with ourselves, because this is the first step to love others, accept ourselves, value ourselves, with defects and virtues, accept that there are things that they get out of our absolute control and that's fine, because not everything goes according to our plans but without a doubt it leads us down new paths that change our perspective, it leads us to understand and accept that these are things that happen because deep down we needed to learn some of it.

It is ironic to offer others what we lack in our lives, such as love for ourselves, which is not just saying it, it is feeling it, through understanding ourselves, valuing ourselves, accepting ourselves as we are, because many times we even want to change our physical appearance or exterior for simply to please others or, failing that, to follow a fashion, when the main thing is to accept ourselves as life made us, to understand that these are things that are out of our absolute control that being different does not make us less than the other than according to the standards it is more graceful physically, on the contrary we must embrace the idea that all ugly or beautiful have something that makes us unique, different in a few magical words.

Self-love is something that dictates that we should even bring out and potentiate our best version, not only physically from within, from the soul, where the most beautiful and striking of the human being is found, such as the values ​​that we are taught from childhood in home, such as empathy for others and for ourselves as well, because we must always match the position we give to others with the one we give ourselves, creating a perfect balance between the two, without going to extremes of making ourselves less or Failing that, the ego clouds our vision, another great step to get to put self-love into practice in our lives is to know ourselves, many people mistakenly think and believe that they do it, when they are very wrong, many times they even do not know something so simple as what they want or what they don't want in their life, that is why self-knowledge is not only physical, it is a very deep and very personal journey, but in the end it will bring lots of positive aspects to the life of those who love it. or do, because you can't love or appreciate what you don't know.

“Loving you is not only accepting you, it is building the best version of you”

I hope you always keep this phrase very much in mind, because we are changing beings, perhaps when you embark on your journey of self-discovery you will understand and change your opinion about the person you currently are and you want to modify it, modify it in that you firmly believe that much is missing. to bring out your true essence, because perhaps you have created masks to try to fit into the world that society standardizes which automatically caused you to repress your authentic essence, creating in you insecurities and limitations that prevent you from daring to be your most authentic version When you become aware of this, you must fight for yourself and learn to release those stigmas that keep you deeply tied to someone you are not, because love for yourself, for something or for someone else does not mean ties or chains, on the contrary, love it is freedom, love is not a barrier, love even gives you independence.

One day I heard that self-love fixed everything but until today I truly understood its meaning, when I tried to love someone else in a loving way I always felt an emptiness, since I falsely thought that love was to please the other in everything even when this I wanted to change things in me, which were part of my essence, undoubtedly what I did was move away from myself and feel completely empty, when you work on yourself, to improve not only your professional, economic, love life, in short, in all areas of life you see that love is synonymous with freedom, acceptance but above all understanding, that when you feel an irrepressible desire to change the other or vice versa, it is an alarm to take the time to think and analyze the situation, if it really is a relationship that adds or that it is subtracting and stealing more from us than should be expected, because relationships should be seen more as teamwork, the two parties must put the same effort or for being together, for growing up, for this reason affective responsibility such as one's own is of vital importance because together they are the perfect cocktail to clearly see if it is something healthy or on the other hand if it is not, when the latter is the most advisable it is getting out of them because they even rob us of that self-esteem that is so difficult to build.

Soon I will talk to you about how to get out of relationships that only remain for you and how I could achieve it