Closing cycles is a form of self-love and the healthiest thing you can do for yourself

<Living tied and anchored to a past will only deprive us of living and enjoying our present>

As we grow it is inevitable at certain points of our existence to feel nostalgia for things lived over the years, it is something normal that will undoubtedly accompany us throughout our lives, it is inevitable not to feel longing and mixed feelings for the moments, situations, circumstances and people that little by little we are leaving behind, those events are even like the basis of us through them we have had the opportunity to grow in all possible aspects of our lives, they have an influence on our life like nothing else the negative is not remembering the past from time to time, remembering the good or the bad but not always living in it, because it keeps us static anchored to what was, think about it, think about what would have been and could not, in the decisions we make, prevent us from focusing our energy on the present, on things that are of vital importance to us, when it crosses the line of something merely healthy to something toxic such as reliving the past 24/7 even distances us from our goals and ourselves, it prevents us from enjoying what we have and working for what we want but still don't have.

They are things that happen if we allow it, they even happen when we don't even plan it, so we must be able to control and stop those emotions that only take us out of line, emotions that are like an interference come to mind at times where we are having an incredible time and they only come to make us sad or put us in a bad mood, so we must be clear that the past is something that has already happened, that in one way or another what happened in that time happened because that is how it had to be, God does not set too difficult tasks if he knew that we are not capable of carrying them but we must be aware that we are in the present, that we must allow ourselves to live to the fullest each experience that life presents us without feeling doubts or emotions that simply anchor us to the past. . Bringing emotions from situations experienced in the past will not only make us remember those moments, it will also bring back those feelings that harm us more than good, such as guilt, resentment, discomfort, hatred, envy, and will only make us relive those feelings. emotions as much or more than in the past, we must create awareness and put aside everything that does not add to our lives, we must try to design a life where peace, calm, tranquility, love, empathy, respect but above all things peace of mind, if your mind is calm in peace you will reflect it on the outside, remember that what you have inside will inevitably be reflected outside, that we must work to improve our lives.

The goal is never to feel competition or envy for the one next door, the goal is to be better than our yesterday self, every day to work towards improving attitudes that are sinking us, that are unconsciously anchoring us in a spiral where if not we put a stop we will not be able to get out of it, which can even bring us disastrous consequences for our mental health such as anxiety, sadness and even depression, which are things that make us fall into the blinding lie that we are not worthy of anything, that our life will always be destined for failure, therefore we must be able to accept first of all what we feel, hide and make the world see that we are fine only sinks us a little more for that reason we must accept that in addition to being clear that the past is something that we cannot change, that there is not yet a clock to turn back time but instead we can learn from it, to manage our life and redirect it along better paths, way s where we will undoubtedly find new adventures, which will be full of people who will provide us with incredible moments, some temporary and others who in one way or another will accompany us throughout our process, we are blinded and are not even able to distinguish that the Fear of the unknown is what terrifies us, fear even of good things because we tend to have as a flag in our minds that we are not worthy of absolutely anything, so we must accept what we feel and always work towards changing negative slogans for the positive ones, we even suffer more for what we imagine, for what our mind tells us that in reality, we make our brain work against it when it should be working towards how to be better every day, forgiving ourselves is a very important step , at times we are our worst judges, we judge ourselves so much that it is impossible for us to understand that what we did cannot be undone, but we can work so that what soon happens in our life we ​​do it in a better way.

Personally, I would add that forgiving everyone who at some point did us any harm does not free them, it frees us, from a life where pride, contempt, hatred always reign, let's change that, we must be able to allow ourselves to let go and forgive to everyone who at some point hurt us, I always think that there were many people who criticized my physique at the time but did not see themselves, that they lacked more awareness because if their lives were led by love, empathy, generosity and respect would not make ill-intentioned comments to anyone for anything, much less for their appearance because people continually look at themselves in mirrors at home and are very aware of how they see themselves, so that others come to point out their defects when they are not even capable of seeing themselves, the only thing they gain is to feed an unhealthy feeling such as the ego that definitely will not lead them to anything good. I also advise you not to be afraid to start over, let's learn that it is a wild card that God gave us life, the universe, that more than something bad is something positive, maybe you like your new story more than the previous one, do not have fear of letting go, from my own experience I tell you that living clinging to stories that could not materialize will make us live hopeful because the impossible will happen, things that already were and that will not return, it happened to me at a point in the plane of love, I did not know how to let go of a love that was not for me, that I thought that I could not live without that person and that I never thought like a square mind, but once you learn to let go, you only realize and understand that new things that come into your life, they are better, more beautiful, they come loaded with good vibes with the aim of making us happy so it only lasts a short time.

PS: It is very hard to let go, it is very hard to close cycles but it is harder to lose ourselves, our essence in the process of not wanting to let go of that past that inevitably has no future in our lives, that we are just wasting time on something that you get more green gray hair than you imagine.