Attachment and detachment, help us to be freer?
<We must learn to balance attachment together with detachment in our lives, without a doubt it will bring us positive aspects such as a healthy physical and mental life>
Undoubtedly since we are born we are dependent people, attached to our parents and family in general, since we are so small and defenseless that we cannot take care of ourselves, we are beings in constant learning, because it is impossible to be born learned or with certain skills as basic as talking and walking, are things that we learn over time thanks to our parents, their love, their undoubted sympathy and empathy when it comes to teaching us with infinite patience, they don't mind teaching us a million times as long as Let's perfect it. In short, attachment in childhood and adolescence is good and necessary, since it nourishes us in every way, makes us more secure, trusting people, makes us develop self-love, an undoubted quality that will serve as a cornerstone in our adulthood, when we have to think, balance and choose wisely about people and situations that may not be so good or, on the contrary, if they contribute positively to our lives.
Although in the first years of our life it is something necessary, because it guides us, instructs us to acquire a retinue of highly effective virtues for our life and growth, attachment to a certain part of our existence such as adulthood can be highly negative, which instead of helping us to be independent, to know, understand and comprehend that happiness and personal well-being only depend solely and exclusively on you, now the attachment becomes completely negative for our process when instead of transforming into security, independence, self-love becomes a need, a need for certain people, things and situations, which generates anxiety, fear, because we begin to depend even emotionally on these circumstances, we begin to feel that they are essential things in our lives, that even without them we would not we can live, when on the contrary we must seek freedom to feel free, well above whether we love someone n, always choose to love from freedom, not from control, not from what the other aspires to be, because we must understand and make others understand that loving freely means loving the other as he is, without wanting to change something of itself, love it with its virtues and defects.
We must understand at a certain point that attachment gives space in our life for detachment, that when the time comes, we must undertake this journey alone, even at some point in our life our parents will not be there, since they in a way made their life, they have already studied, created memories, in a few words they have already made their choice, they have already gone through stages that now correspond to you and only you, where it is valid to have them as support, as a safe space to go to, as long as you have to renew your energies, to be able to continue living and making your own decisions, as you see fit because for better or for worse, you are here to design your life as best suits you, of course you can listen to advice from your parents, family and friends, but the person who in the end must make your choices is you, detachment is not as negative as many have made it seem, practicing it or including it in your daily life does not mean that you should cut ties with anyone die, on the contrary, means that even if these people or situations have to leave your process at some point along the way in life, you will not die, sadness will not kill you, you will know that it fulfilled its mission in your life and like everything in this life that comes and goes, you have to let it go, always recognizing that although it is no longer here, your happiness did not depend on it, although it contributed to this process, other people and circumstances will come that will also bring happiness and positivity to your life.
Detachment even goes hand in hand with gratitude, because it is valid to want better things for our lives, such as wanting a better phone, but you need to start by appreciating the one you already have, gratitude will always bring better things to your life even the ones you have dreamed of for yourself, but before that, without a doubt, you must begin to be more grateful, because when you have gratitude in your life you begin to see things from a more beautiful perspective, appreciating what you have, because many, even if you don't believe it, would like being in your place, understanding that happiness does not depend on material things as marketing has made us believe, on the contrary, happiness is a decision that lives within us, that goes hand in hand with self-love, giving of receiving, of respect, sympathy and empathy that we give and receive from others, the beautiful and positive thing about detachment is that we do not stop wanting things, nor aspiring to be better, it is that it makes us know, understand and Understand that even if we want these things, our life does not revolve around them, our happiness is only a decision and a state that we choose, not anyone else, nor things, much less experiences.
To conclude, I personally think that attachment and detachment are aspects that we must balance to be happy, like everything in life, we must not exceed ourselves, but just as little less, we must seek our midpoint, in both aspects, always understanding that attachment It is very necessary to grow and be a secure person capable of loving oneself, but at a certain point it is necessary to include detachment because our happiness does not depend on people, material things and much less on experiences, on the contrary, happiness lives within us, it is a decision that you must make every day, of course that people, things and experiences help in the process to intensify it but always understanding that even if they are not there all the time, it is not the end of the world, because our decision of happiness prevails above all.
